No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

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Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Family First

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Image credit: Pixabay A very popular quote says: “what you give attention to…..grows”! How true is this? When plants are watered they grow, when happiness is shared, it spreads and grows, when a gossip is given more fuel….well it grows!!!! So essentially what we give time to…grows. Similarly, bonding in family needs time and attention. When it is given time and attention….bonding does grow. Lifestyle nowadays is hectic, full of noise, hustle, bustle and rush. In fact, what we are left with is no time with family. The interaction between members is less. In fact a down time now means for each member to spend more time on his/her own device. Here are few simple and effective tips to spend more time with family in spite of busy schedules. Family that eats together; stays together: Having at least one meal a day, every day together is a good way of spending quality time. Often its either breakfast or dinner when the family can gather and catch up with each other’s activities and plans. It’s not possible to force or make it compulsory for everyone to be at the dining table for a meal, however the intention to do so will definitely do the trick.   Interest in each other’s interests: In a family, the more number of members, more varied are the interests, hobbies and passion. Sometimes, parents encourage children to pursue a hobby or passion but do not take time to actively involve themselves in the learning. Whatever each […]

Working to Live or Living to Work? Find The Right Balance

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Image credit: Lukas From Pexels “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life”: Hillary Rodham Clinton. The quote makes us think…doesn’t it? We intertwine work with everything else and then start looking for “life” in that whirlpool. Little do we realize that work is just a part of the big picture called “life”.  Often the magnanimity of life is overshadowed by the slice of “work” that is a part of it.  Just like how family, passion, hobby are all slices too. There is no second guessing to the fact that we work an earning towards living and we work more to earn more for a better life.  However, in the midst of it all we fail to acknowledge the existence of life. The present that we are living in. We rush, run and chase but have to remind ourselves to stop, breathe and live too.  Life is the best gift that a human has ever received. But in the pursuit of living we forget the essence of life. So, a balance is sought after for a balance in work – life.  Technically, a woman who has a career and goes out of home to earn is a working woman. But what about the woman who stays at home and works for the home. Isn’t she a working woman too? Yes she is. And very rightly so. So why should “work/life” balance be applicable to a woman working outside the home and not for the one at home. Whether she […]

Stress? Let’s Deal With It

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“Its not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”  – Lou Holtz Each and every one of us is very well-acquainted with the phenomenon called ‘Stress’ which either is a perpetual companion or pokes its nose periodically, making sure you go mentally haywire. You could find ways to deal with stress anywhere, right from the internet to the sound advice of a friend. They are all the same- exercise, meditation, getting enough sleep, reduce caffeine intake, giving up alcohol, quitting smoking, healthy diet and the list goes on. Do they work? Of course, they do! But, how about we do something different this time, like trying to change our mindsets a bit so that we bid farewell to this nasty part of our life trying to bite our minds off? The first step to a chilled out and stress-free life is to stop caring what other people think about you. No, this does not mean that you turn up really late to an important meeting and be all relaxed about it when you are reprimanded. It simply means “do your best and ignore the rest”. If you know that you have worked to the best of your capability, the job is well done. People – at the workplace or at home – will almost always find something to criticize, in spite of you putting your heart and soul into the job getting done. If they scoff, let them. If they demean, let them. All you have […]

Alternative Career – 3 Tips To Help You Find Your Big Idea

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Image credit: Freepik All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney I still remember this incident which happened few years back, I was single then and one of my colleagues questioned me about my vision for the upcoming years. I smiled and replied him back that I wouldn’t be a part of any MNC and I would land up in some other work which will quench my thirst of being creative. Then he popped up his next question “So you are planning to quit and stay at home or do you have any other plans?” My vision was clear but I had no answers for what’s next? I worked till I availed my maternity break and I broke my relationship with corporate once my leave got exhausted. Friends and well wishers called me often to lift my spirit of getting back to work. I made few attempts to get any work at home projects but I failed to meet the employer’s expectations. At a moment I felt an internal pressure of losing all my confidence. My life changed completely in next following months and my daughter kept me busy around the clock because I was her only care taker. I wonder how fortunate daily waged women are. Despite the low salary she has a liberty to carry her kids to her work place and she can manage both of her roles (worker & mother) with so much grace and no guilt […]

Sabbatical – How to get through it…

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Image Courtesy: WikiHow. Gauri a software developer, playing a key role in the design, installation, testing and maintenance of software systems in high pressure situations, at times clocking over 50 hours a week. She felt stuck in a rut grappling with exhaustion and discontentment. After wondering for months if while trying to make a career did she forget to make a life for herself, she finally took a break. Priya loved her job as a web designer, coding and modifying websites, from layout to function meeting client expectations. She became a mother last year and in absence of dependable support called it quits and became a stay at home mom. Different circumstances leading to similar situation, a break from work aka ‘sabbatical’. What is a sabbatical? Traditionally, a sabbatical involves a break from work for a mutually agreed-upon time frame between employee and employer. But a sabbatical isn’t always traditional. Only a handful of companies in India actually encourage and endorse the concept of taking a break. A person may take a sabbatical on feeling burnt-out or disgruntled at work but more often than not women are coerced into taking a break as a result of familial or motherhood responsibilities. Myths related to a sabbatical once you take a break it is improbable to get a job back. companies frown upon the gap seen in your resume taking a sabbatical equals to missing the bus and you can never catch up once you take a break you lose touch These […]

Who told you more work is more productivity?

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Well, simply speaking- productivity is the result or output. But it’s a little more than result, its efficiency of result. Who told you, more work is more productivity? Productivity has many factors associated with it. Work is just one dimension to look at productivity. In fact we should consider many more aspects to productivity. Prudence of Time: Time and Tide waits for no man. Time is always hooked with productivity. Timely delivery is the key aspect to sustain any business. Hence it’s wise to be aware of time management. “Do, Delegate, Delay”- are essential elements of time management. Prioritize the job and do it right away. If you can’t do it then delegate it and get it done. In fact Dale Carnegie once said-“Those who don’t learn to delegate die young” .That simply summons the importance of delegation. Also say, if you cannot get many things done at a time, we can of course wait a little i.e. delay job and better concentrate on job at hand. Prudence of Work: The basis of the elements of time is Priority and Perfection. Always know what is important at the moment.  Higher the priority, earlier the chore needs your attention. But how much should it be done depends on the level of perfection expected. This level of perfection should be smartly decided. Always remember – Feed the Eagles and Starve the Turkeys. Not all chores require 100% perfection. In fact think on who decides standards of perfection. Always limit perfection based on […]

Stay Connected………..Within Reality

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What a privilege it is to live in an advanced era of today. Technology has probably made it possible to stay connected with each other irrespective of time zone, geographical boundary or economic status. We take the aid of wireless mode but are constantly wired with people around us. What an irony is that! However, as much as staying connected has helped us get closer virtually, it may have succeeded in pushing us away from each other physically.   A lifestyle where selfies, instagram posts and twitter posts compel us to open up about ourself in the most unusual way, we lose the warmth and naivety of human touch.  Social media is great for staying connected but often stresses us out more than keeping us in touch with each other. We succumb to pressures of trying to look our best for “likes” or fear to be judged for what we post or what we don’t post. So, somewhere the need to be naïve, real, vulnerable, awkward in front of people, among people is also necessary. After all these are the base emotions that help us clear our thoughts and emotions. Human connections are more than staying connected through the digital world. But while technology pushes us to get more and more into our own cocoon, the more we need to try and spread our web. Meeting friends, spending quality time with family, socializing, doing meaningful social services like charity, philanthropy, working towards the upliftment of underprivileged ….are few of the […]

A life not so extra-ordinary may not necessarily be an unfulfilled one…

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Image Courtesy: Freepik About a decade ago, I was happily living my life in Bangalore. The city has everything that a 20 something could ask for. Moving from Mumbai, the city was much more affordable, it has a cosmopolitan outlook, lot of places to hang out and the city was safer for women than say Delhi. Yes, I was not growing professionally but other than that life was as happy as it could be. I was at peace with myself and my surroundings. To top it all I had a lovely apartment with a balcony overlooking a beautiful garden and a swimming pool. A Mumbaikar can not ask for more. Just as I was thanking the Gods above for the life I was living, the Gods played a cruel joke and sent across a job offer from London. Everything about the London based job was exactly what I was looking for: reputed organization, global role, growth and opportunity to be trained and to work with the best. However, those were only the pros, the cons were going away from friends and family, living in a city with one of the highest cost of living in the world, a place where you will always be an immigrant and a culture that you have to make an effort to get used to. When we are young we don’t necessarily understand the importance of the cushion of family (immediate and extended) and close friends in our life. We assume we can take everything […]