Emotional Awareness for Personal & Professional Success

Emotional Awareness

The Harley Therapy Counselling Blog defines Emotional Awareness as “the ability to recognise and make sense of not just your emotions but also those of others.” This means that being aware of what we feel is not enough to make us emotionally aware. We need to enhance the awareness further by identifying, acknowledging and accepting that feeling in others as well. Also successfully predicting our reaction towards this feeling is crucial in enhancing emotional awareness. It is only then that we will be able to handle our emotions in the desired manner.   As humans we all have emotions. Enhancing our emotional awareness is crucial in ensuring our social well-being. It is deeply linked with how we perceive and build our relationships with our personal as well professional associates. As professionals we go through a whole gamut of emotions, and being able to decipher those early on will help us improve the way we handle ourselves as well as our relations with our co-workers in the professional space.   Build Better Communication Radha was a marketing professional and often had to make presentations to her clients. However, before every presentation she would get sleepless nights. The next morning her eyes would be red and she would be really snappy with her team. Her other team mates would avoid her on such days and made fun of her weird behavior behind her back. Gradually this created a distance between her and her team resulting in an overall poor performance. The above scenario […]

8 Advantages of Online Tutoring as Work From Home Career

A career break could be for many reasons. It could be Maternity break, ill health, health, move to another city, state, country or a perpetual break. To return after a sabbatical and start again is quite frustrating for most women. Reasons are internal as well as external. Externally, the market scenario has changed, technology has changed, pay scales, working modalities etc. Internally there are life events that have been added to the timeline and with it family dynamics as well as responsibilities have changed too. So, practically and realistically, it is a  little harder this time to start from where one has left and restart from the same field of work. The route could be a little different now, but worth taking it.  Well, as long as the motivation and passion is there, one must keep going. But until then there are few alternative options one can look into in their field of work. practically and realistically, it is a  little harder this time to start from where one has left and restart from the same field of work. Online tutoring is one such option, where you can work from home, and its easy and fun. Here are some advantages: Flexible hours – A big advantage is that these type of jobs have time slots of 2 hours per session and one can choose to go up to as many number of sessions in a day. So with a minimum of 2 hours per day one can get engaged in […]

The Tightrope Walk – Combining Career and Family

When I met a friend after a gap of 15 years and exchanged life stories, she spoke about a classmate who decided not to have a family for the sake of Career Advancement. The question that raced through my mind is “Does getting married signify the end of professional life or can we walk the tightrope and make both co-exist’’? Despite all these years of waging war for equality and establishing a stance in the society, I strongly feel that there are fewer men set with the question of Career after marriage. In a Country abundant with Culture and Family values, career tends to take a nosedive after marriage. Luckily in the past two decades, there is significant acceptance by the Extended families that career is important to Women as it is to a Man. Also, the concept of day care at work has made it easier to concentrate professionally without sacrificing our domestic responsibilities. As a person who started to work soon after college, I have never felt my thirst to restart my career take a back seat because of family. It’s certainly not choosing one over the other, but to bring all together in the potpourri of life. Of course, it’s not an easy walk.  There are always sacrifices on sleep or social visits, but these are the mandates for a better standard of living. I have been fascinated by the account of Indra Nooyi.  She goes on to narrate that when she went home with excitement to […]

See Sawing Life – Balancing With Fun

“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices’’.  – Betsy Jacobson Family or Work? – It’s a dilemma that most of us are set with…torn between the endearing love for family and fierce determination to succeed in profession. While it’s difficult to weigh one against the other, best way is to balance it out, thereby creating a very cordial environment. It’s alike a See-Saw, balancing with fun. Normal social construct is that spending more time at office portrays a person’s ambition. Being driven by this paradigm tends to take a toll on the concept of balance. Work – life balance is very vital so that one is not compromised for the other. While we are driven by family values, credit has to be given to the fact that Career is built through years of hard work and unyielding efforts. Both play an important role in our lives. Some tips to balance both:   Prioritize your day and plan accordingly: If you need to leave early or will be delayed coming home, set the right expectations with your family members. Check if your better half can come in early if you are held up at work.   The Art of saying NO: There is little need to take up every assignment that comes your way. Weigh the opportunity and judge how it will help you grow professionally. If it doesn’t add any value, let it go.   Delegate: Whether at work […]

Gender Diversity in workplaces in India

History shows that women, the world over, have had to fight for equal rights, be it the right to vote, the right to work or even the right to reproduce. Even today when the world has advanced so much technologically, women are not considered at par with men and are often discriminated against even though there are laws that ban discrimination. In India, as elsewhere in the world, as more and more women have access to a higher education, have awareness of their rights, have aspirations and capabilities, their numbers at the workplace are steadily increasing. Indian women are not only handling administrative and clerical jobs but are also taking on managerial positions. But is this increasing presence of women at all levels in the workplace also fetching more rewards and success? Women are often discriminated against and receive less remuneration as compared to men for the same/ similar work. A woman may be more qualified but may be passed over for promotion. Gender diversity is the need of the hour. What is gender diversity? Gender diversity in a workplace is when an organization has equal and fair representation of both men and women.The advent of multi- national companies in India has played a major role in increasing gender diversity. But the Indian companies do not seem to be adopting this mantra of gender diversity. Studies show that women make better leaders than their male counterparts, women in leadership roles are more loyal to their organization, women are more creative […]

No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

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Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Family First

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Image credit: Pixabay A very popular quote says: “what you give attention to…..grows”! How true is this? When plants are watered they grow, when happiness is shared, it spreads and grows, when a gossip is given more fuel….well it grows!!!! So essentially what we give time to…grows. Similarly, bonding in family needs time and attention. When it is given time and attention….bonding does grow. Lifestyle nowadays is hectic, full of noise, hustle, bustle and rush. In fact, what we are left with is no time with family. The interaction between members is less. In fact a down time now means for each member to spend more time on his/her own device. Here are few simple and effective tips to spend more time with family in spite of busy schedules. Family that eats together; stays together: Having at least one meal a day, every day together is a good way of spending quality time. Often its either breakfast or dinner when the family can gather and catch up with each other’s activities and plans. It’s not possible to force or make it compulsory for everyone to be at the dining table for a meal, however the intention to do so will definitely do the trick.   Interest in each other’s interests: In a family, the more number of members, more varied are the interests, hobbies and passion. Sometimes, parents encourage children to pursue a hobby or passion but do not take time to actively involve themselves in the learning. Whatever each […]

Working to Live or Living to Work? Find The Right Balance

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Image credit: Lukas From Pexels “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life”: Hillary Rodham Clinton. The quote makes us think…doesn’t it? We intertwine work with everything else and then start looking for “life” in that whirlpool. Little do we realize that work is just a part of the big picture called “life”.  Often the magnanimity of life is overshadowed by the slice of “work” that is a part of it.  Just like how family, passion, hobby are all slices too. There is no second guessing to the fact that we work an earning towards living and we work more to earn more for a better life.  However, in the midst of it all we fail to acknowledge the existence of life. The present that we are living in. We rush, run and chase but have to remind ourselves to stop, breathe and live too.  Life is the best gift that a human has ever received. But in the pursuit of living we forget the essence of life. So, a balance is sought after for a balance in work – life.  Technically, a woman who has a career and goes out of home to earn is a working woman. But what about the woman who stays at home and works for the home. Isn’t she a working woman too? Yes she is. And very rightly so. So why should “work/life” balance be applicable to a woman working outside the home and not for the one at home. Whether she […]

Stress? Let’s Deal With It

Do your best! And ignore the rest to deal with Stress! Image of a lady squeezing a smiley stress ball

“Its not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”  – Lou Holtz Each and every one of us is very well-acquainted with the phenomenon called ‘Stress’ which either is a perpetual companion or pokes its nose periodically, making sure you go mentally haywire. You could find ways to deal with stress anywhere, right from the internet to the sound advice of a friend. They are all the same- exercise, meditation, getting enough sleep, reduce caffeine intake, giving up alcohol, quitting smoking, healthy diet and the list goes on. Do they work? Of course, they do! But, how about we do something different this time, like trying to change our mindsets a bit so that we bid farewell to this nasty part of our life trying to bite our minds off? The first step to a chilled out and stress-free life is to stop caring what other people think about you. No, this does not mean that you turn up really late to an important meeting and be all relaxed about it when you are reprimanded. It simply means “do your best and ignore the rest”. If you know that you have worked to the best of your capability, the job is well done. People – at the workplace or at home – will almost always find something to criticize, in spite of you putting your heart and soul into the job getting done. If they scoff, let them. If they demean, let them. All you have […]

Alternative Career – 3 Tips To Help You Find Your Big Idea

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Image credit: Freepik All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. – Walt Disney I still remember this incident which happened few years back, I was single then and one of my colleagues questioned me about my vision for the upcoming years. I smiled and replied him back that I wouldn’t be a part of any MNC and I would land up in some other work which will quench my thirst of being creative. Then he popped up his next question “So you are planning to quit and stay at home or do you have any other plans?” My vision was clear but I had no answers for what’s next? I worked till I availed my maternity break and I broke my relationship with corporate once my leave got exhausted. Friends and well wishers called me often to lift my spirit of getting back to work. I made few attempts to get any work at home projects but I failed to meet the employer’s expectations. At a moment I felt an internal pressure of losing all my confidence. My life changed completely in next following months and my daughter kept me busy around the clock because I was her only care taker. I wonder how fortunate daily waged women are. Despite the low salary she has a liberty to carry her kids to her work place and she can manage both of her roles (worker & mother) with so much grace and no guilt […]