Emotional Awareness for Personal & Professional Success

Emotional Awareness

The Harley Therapy Counselling Blog defines Emotional Awareness as “the ability to recognise and make sense of not just your emotions but also those of others.” This means that being aware of what we feel is not enough to make us emotionally aware. We need to enhance the awareness further by identifying, acknowledging and accepting that feeling in others as well. Also successfully predicting our reaction towards this feeling is crucial in enhancing emotional awareness. It is only then that we will be able to handle our emotions in the desired manner.   As humans we all have emotions. Enhancing our emotional awareness is crucial in ensuring our social well-being. It is deeply linked with how we perceive and build our relationships with our personal as well professional associates. As professionals we go through a whole gamut of emotions, and being able to decipher those early on will help us improve the way we handle ourselves as well as our relations with our co-workers in the professional space.   Build Better Communication Radha was a marketing professional and often had to make presentations to her clients. However, before every presentation she would get sleepless nights. The next morning her eyes would be red and she would be really snappy with her team. Her other team mates would avoid her on such days and made fun of her weird behavior behind her back. Gradually this created a distance between her and her team resulting in an overall poor performance. The above scenario […]

Stand Tall and Face it all with Confidence . . .

Stand tall and face it all with confidence

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence ” – Helen Keller During my first year of college, I had the privilege of being an Air cadet in NCC which presented me the opportunity to fly Gliders. In my first session, I vividly recall my Wing Commander saying “Flying is all about gaining Confidence”. Little did I know the significance of those words until a later stage in life. I always had the attitude of “Stand tall and Face it all”. Confidence is something that can’t be built in a day. I believe life is a series of occurrences with each experience and challenge presenting us newer opportunities to strengthen and gain conviction. While there is no ‘’One approach fits all” methodology, I am listing a few pointers that has helped me over the years. Get out of your Comfort zone : It is cosy to bask in the familiar, but to progress, it’s necessary to step out of the zone and be prepared to feel awkward. Pushing your limits and embarking on the unknown will provide you with immense confidence. Avoid Comparisons : Many a day is lost in comparing our lives with others. The advent of Social media while a boon, casts gloom when used to equate our living standards. It’s highly pertinent that we develop the maturity to be happy with what we have. Look for happiness in the littlest of things : It’s not always the money or […]

9 Effective Tips for Writing a Resume

Resume writing tips

There are thousands of people who are looking out for a new job and the resume is the first point of entry that he / she can make to the company. So, it is very much essential that the resume reflects the person’s capabilities and achievements and gets the attention of the recruiters. The following guidelines will help in drafting an employable resume: Keep it Brief and Concise Recruiters spend only a few minutes screening the resume. So, ensure that your resume does not run into pages. Highlight in brief your achievements. 2. Reverse chronological order There are different ways in which the resume can be organized but the traditional way of stating items in reverse chronological order is always preferred by many. Do not leave any obvious gaps. 3. Career break If you have taken a career break, do not try to hide it. Specify the activities that you have done during the break period, even if it may not be completely relevant. For example, you could have completed some certifications, or been part of some community drive or even participated in some event in your neighbourhood school. It is essential to stay updated during the break period. If you haven’t done it, start reaching out and explore what is interesting to you before you start looking for a job. Get enrolled in refresher course. State it in the resume to show what you have done to stay relevant in the field. 4. What You See Is What You […]

4 Tips For Effective Interaction With Management

Tips for effective interaction with management

Image Credit: Freepik How do you make yourself seen, heard and talked about by the top bosses? You work hard, smart and are valuable enough to provide inputs but are they listening? More commonly Management holds the responsibility of providing vision, inspiration and motivation for those being led and uses tools like surveys, focus groups, one-on-one meetings and communication activities. They follow the Top-Down approach. But effective communication is established when employees are provided with opportunity to ask questions, receive clarity and accomplish their task with clear steps to complete goals. Communication is only communication if the message gets where it needs to go and is received by those who need to hear it. Bottom-up communication (Employees to management) provides information about employee needs, values, perceptions and opinions. This helps the management to select and tailor their programs and policies to meet the specific needs of their employees. Here are few tips to communicate effectively through bottom up approach.   Make yourself seen – Communicate face to face wherever you can. Research shows that less than 10 percent of the meaning of a message is carried through the actual words. If we just have written communication without any face-to-face communication, people are going to miss the message. Even through technology through videos seeing each other’s’ faces makes a huge difference. Eyes do not lie and you can express better.   Make yourself heard – While talking, keep your voice and tone low, positive and yet assertive. Using statements like “I fully understand […]

Career Break landed me on a road I never dreamt of travelling

Image Credit: Novak Yesterday I was on 365th Day of 28th year of my life. Only one year in 20’s then I would be a Trigenerian. Last night before falling asleep I sat for a while to look back into my past, First fifteen years of life is as same as any other kid, catching up on my milestones as an infant, learning fundamental education, running an academic race. During my teenage years preparing for board exam, sailing in science stream to get enrolled into a professional college. With all expectations I started pursuing my professional degree. Like every other individual I had dreamt of how my college days would be fun filled, explore a lot. But it remained same as my previous years. Model exams, practical were integral part of our routine. I reached pre final year where soft skills was introduced which would help every student to grab an opportunity in MNC. Final year sowed the seed of responsibility as a daughter and as an individual. I knew after this I could never relive the life of a student. Landed in a decent job. Initially I was overwhelmed about coding for a specific reason (It was my favorite since my college days. I felt it dealt with getting more creative). I had chosen my career. Days passed I realized somewhere deep in my heart my goals were spoon fed by my boss in addition to someone else having a hold on me as well as my time. I […]

Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Chasing Dreams – My restart story

Chasing Dreams - My restart story

Image source: Pexels Today I was rudely woken up from my slumber by the shrill sound of the phone. Still groggy from sleep I answered the phone but after answering I was on cloud nine. I had become a celebrity overnight and I beamed with joy. The journey of my life was going to be published by Internshala an important website. I went into flashback. The lanky, school-girl who had opted for science in her plus two as she wanted to make her mark in the field of medicine. She came from a lineage of medicos, so it was a natural choice. But it seemed dissecting cadavers was not her cup of tea. So medicine was dropped and the focus was on research. She hoped to discover the ‘Elixir of life’. Armed with a doctoral degree she was ready to face the world. Her only aim was to procure a good job and she was rewarded in the form of a Research Associate-ship. It was a tenure bound project which she completed with elan. She hoped to reach for the stars with her academic excellence but it seems God had other plans for her. She soon found herself in holy matrimony and thus started a new phase in her life. She had procured a good job in a research institute. But within a year of marriage, she had embraced motherhood and career was put on a backburner. Friends and relatives chided her for leaving her job but she had taken […]

Sneak A Peek At Copy Writing As A Career

Image credit: Bruce Mars, Pexels What is Copywriting? Social media marketing technique and it’s quite high paying job as well. Do you remember that we usually leave our mail ids in most of the shopping sites? Since then our inbox would be spammed with promotional mails,  few of the mails would grab our attention and we will fall prey for the item and we will go to the website and grab the item. Have you ever imagined about how those advertisements are made? A copywriter is the mastermind behind all these marketing mails who attracts the customers and makes a successful business. Basic Mantra: Speak how you feel and write how you speak Simple advertisement will give you a clear picture of what Copywriting is? The sample flyer on the left side is quite monotonous one, whereas the next one is quite unique and we will definitely fall for it because everyone relates the second with their food habit. Prerequisites for a Copywriter: Understand the nuances of Copywriting Pulse of CW in industry Types of CW Take a course and be active in following the groups in social media Create an identity and start travelling in it. Content Writing Vs Copywriting: Being a blogger I have heard about content writing is when Copy writing came to lime light I was bit confused about the variations and I guess even you must be too while reading this post. Here is a short note on how they differ, Content Writing: Journalistic kind […]

Stress? Let’s Deal With It

Do your best! And ignore the rest to deal with Stress! Image of a lady squeezing a smiley stress ball

“Its not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”  – Lou Holtz Each and every one of us is very well-acquainted with the phenomenon called ‘Stress’ which either is a perpetual companion or pokes its nose periodically, making sure you go mentally haywire. You could find ways to deal with stress anywhere, right from the internet to the sound advice of a friend. They are all the same- exercise, meditation, getting enough sleep, reduce caffeine intake, giving up alcohol, quitting smoking, healthy diet and the list goes on. Do they work? Of course, they do! But, how about we do something different this time, like trying to change our mindsets a bit so that we bid farewell to this nasty part of our life trying to bite our minds off? The first step to a chilled out and stress-free life is to stop caring what other people think about you. No, this does not mean that you turn up really late to an important meeting and be all relaxed about it when you are reprimanded. It simply means “do your best and ignore the rest”. If you know that you have worked to the best of your capability, the job is well done. People – at the workplace or at home – will almost always find something to criticize, in spite of you putting your heart and soul into the job getting done. If they scoff, let them. If they demean, let them. All you have […]

Sabbatical – How to get through it…

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Image Courtesy: WikiHow. Gauri a software developer, playing a key role in the design, installation, testing and maintenance of software systems in high pressure situations, at times clocking over 50 hours a week. She felt stuck in a rut grappling with exhaustion and discontentment. After wondering for months if while trying to make a career did she forget to make a life for herself, she finally took a break. Priya loved her job as a web designer, coding and modifying websites, from layout to function meeting client expectations. She became a mother last year and in absence of dependable support called it quits and became a stay at home mom. Different circumstances leading to similar situation, a break from work aka ‘sabbatical’. What is a sabbatical? Traditionally, a sabbatical involves a break from work for a mutually agreed-upon time frame between employee and employer. But a sabbatical isn’t always traditional. Only a handful of companies in India actually encourage and endorse the concept of taking a break. A person may take a sabbatical on feeling burnt-out or disgruntled at work but more often than not women are coerced into taking a break as a result of familial or motherhood responsibilities. Myths related to a sabbatical once you take a break it is improbable to get a job back. companies frown upon the gap seen in your resume taking a sabbatical equals to missing the bus and you can never catch up once you take a break you lose touch These […]