No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

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Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Be Your Own Boss! Be An Entrepreneur

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Image credit: Pexels ‘’I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul’- Invictus’ by William Ernest Henley. Gone are days when the tradition of preparing for bank or other competitive exams was inculcated in our minds as a teenager. Breaking barriers, Women have been a powerful force in all facets of work including start-ups. The conventional role of choosing safe jobs is no more a compulsion and the world has given a plethora of opportunities to be your own boss, to be an entrepreneur! There is no need to fit into a mould when you can stand out and create your own identity. With the advancement of technology, it’s possible to start a business and promote the same without much hassle. A few points to be considered before commencing your business: Understand your strengths and interests. It’s easy to succeed in an industry where your passion lies. Be cognizant of your finances. Start small, eventually with the expansion, investors would follow. Capitalise on Social networking sites and utilise it most to promote the brand. Nothing substitutes hard work, especially in the initial stages when business is at infancy. Try to have a network of likeminded people who will guide you during testing times. As an entrepreneur, you’ll have the privilege of working at your own hours; implement your ideas that were hitherto not heeded. It’s not necessary to start on giant scale, a simple business from home, working flexi hours and making money is a […]

Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Chasing Dreams – My restart story

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Image source: Pexels Today I was rudely woken up from my slumber by the shrill sound of the phone. Still groggy from sleep I answered the phone but after answering I was on cloud nine. I had become a celebrity overnight and I beamed with joy. The journey of my life was going to be published by Internshala an important website. I went into flashback. The lanky, school-girl who had opted for science in her plus two as she wanted to make her mark in the field of medicine. She came from a lineage of medicos, so it was a natural choice. But it seemed dissecting cadavers was not her cup of tea. So medicine was dropped and the focus was on research. She hoped to discover the ‘Elixir of life’. Armed with a doctoral degree she was ready to face the world. Her only aim was to procure a good job and she was rewarded in the form of a Research Associate-ship. It was a tenure bound project which she completed with elan. She hoped to reach for the stars with her academic excellence but it seems God had other plans for her. She soon found herself in holy matrimony and thus started a new phase in her life. She had procured a good job in a research institute. But within a year of marriage, she had embraced motherhood and career was put on a backburner. Friends and relatives chided her for leaving her job but she had taken […]

Fun Alternatives For Ladies After A Career Break

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Image Credit: Pexels Did you plod your way through a hectic course, take the trouble to secure a good job and toil hard to earn a fat salary only to end up getting married, having children and staying at home totally unemployed? You now have your kids and home as your priority and perhaps you do not want to get back to your career by taking up a full fledged nine to five job like before. But the thought of doing nothing apart from your homely duties is quite discouraging. You have this urge to do something- anything that will showcase your talent, efforts and earn a good amount of money as well. Your formal education might or might not help you here, but this is the time your buried hobbies and passions should surface. Use your skills to earn money- at your own convenience. Here are some ways- If you often receive compliments for your dishes, use your cooking skills to open a blog or a YouTube channel and share your yummy recipes with the world and earn through advertisements. If you are not too tech-savvy or if you have no technical support, you can provide lunch boxes for the office going folk yearning for homemade food. To take matters further, you can even plan on opening your own little eatery if you have the resources.   Are you the kind of person who enthusiastically stays in shape? If yes, you can either be a yoga instructor, a Zumba […]

3 tips to increase your self-confidence when you are on a career break

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Image credit: Pixabay When I quit my job, a well-meaning ex-boss told me to get back to work as quickly as possible or run the risk of losing my self-confidence. My initial reaction was ‘That doesn’t apply to me. I’m never going to feel low on self-confidence’. I was so sure that she was wrong. 4 years have passed by. And, I sometimes wonder – was she right all along? I have learned the hard way now, that the answer to the above question is – Yes and No. Yes – There are times when we women are likely to lose a bit of our self-confidence. When you have to quit a hectic and demanding career and find yourself all of a sudden with nothing equally challenging (mentally) to do, you feel the vacuum. When you are used to your talent and potential being utilized and suddenly it lies dormant and unutilized, it has a certain bearing on your self-confidence, especially in the long run.   And No – One does not feel low on self-confidence all the time. There are only certain times when it strikes. For instance, you apply for a position and notice that your current skill sets are inadequate or outdated.  Or when you notice that your earlier peers have charged ahead with their careers while you are still on a break. Times like these are when you feel irrelevant and low on self-confidence. And interestingly, not everyone loses their self-confidence on a career break. Some […]

Bridging the skill gap using online resources

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Image Credit: Pixabay, Freepik Perhaps you have very little time. Or maybe you don’t want to spend too much of your money on the new skill; or on a new course; or a new book. Maybe you just need to find a quick way to get little things done. The following online resource links will doubtlessly help you save time, money and efforts to get them accomplished! Learn programming and other topics related to computer science, totally free of cost. These courses on Python, Java, Linux, C++ etc. are divided according to the difficulty level- beginner, intermediate and advanced. Identify your level, choose a course, enroll and get going: https://medium.freecodecamp.org/440-free-online-programming-computer-science-courses-you-can-start-in-february-e075f920cb5b 2. Here is a website dedicated to Java newbies where you can learn Java and JavaScript through hundreds of training videos and learning material: https://javabrains.io/ 3. If you are a web developer and wish to enhance your skills, then the courses on this website are perfect for you! Ranging from lessons from scratch to the most advanced ones, these online courses are everything you look for as a web developer: https://codeburst.io/the-2018-web-developer-roadmap-826b1b806e8d 4. Here’s where you will find a list of about 600 courses launched by 200 universities. The subjects of the courses include computer science, programming, data science, mathematics, business, medicine, humanities, social science and art: https://qz.com/1120344/200-universities-just-launched-600-free-online-courses-heres-the-full-list/ 5. A list of websites offering online education support where you will find a number of academic lessons and courses: khanacademy.org academicearths.org coursera.com edx.org open2study.com academicjournals.org codeacademy.org youtube.com/education http://www.open.edu/openlearn/ http://ocw.tufts.edu/ http://www.oeconsortium.org/ https://online.nd.edu/what-we-do/ 6. […]

Doing what you love… Hobbies and Passion to Opportunity

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Image Credit: Medium If you just work on stuff that you like and you’re passionate about, you don’t have to have a master plan with how things will play out.” – Mark Zuckerberg Not all of us are born with exceptional talents, but we do possess or acquire some special skills that makes us stand out. As kids or teenagers, we had the fire and belief that something we are good at is exciting and easy to make a living. Somewhere up the curve, in the struggle for riches and competing with the world, we trade our dreams for a high paying job and a sophisticated life. Is it too late to make a living out of your passion? Well, definitely no. Whether you are starting your career based on a hobby or adapting to it in mid stage, I believe it’s achievable coupled with fair amount of hard work. While it’s an added advantage to do something you like, it doesn’t mean it comes easy. To be a natural at something is a blessing. If one can’t make a full-fledged career out of their passion, its best to incorporate that into the job you are doing. For e.g., I have a knack for writing. Throughout my professional tenure, I was on the lookout for writing opportunities, whether it was for authoring Internal Magazines or drafting communication mails. It’s not always about the money, but the immense satisfaction I derived in doing something I love. To cherry pick my thoughts on […]

Stress? Let’s Deal With It

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“Its not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.”  – Lou Holtz Each and every one of us is very well-acquainted with the phenomenon called ‘Stress’ which either is a perpetual companion or pokes its nose periodically, making sure you go mentally haywire. You could find ways to deal with stress anywhere, right from the internet to the sound advice of a friend. They are all the same- exercise, meditation, getting enough sleep, reduce caffeine intake, giving up alcohol, quitting smoking, healthy diet and the list goes on. Do they work? Of course, they do! But, how about we do something different this time, like trying to change our mindsets a bit so that we bid farewell to this nasty part of our life trying to bite our minds off? The first step to a chilled out and stress-free life is to stop caring what other people think about you. No, this does not mean that you turn up really late to an important meeting and be all relaxed about it when you are reprimanded. It simply means “do your best and ignore the rest”. If you know that you have worked to the best of your capability, the job is well done. People – at the workplace or at home – will almost always find something to criticize, in spite of you putting your heart and soul into the job getting done. If they scoff, let them. If they demean, let them. All you have […]

Maximise Your Productivity To Unleash Your Potential

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Image Credit: Freeimages “Ten years from now, do you really think all the time you spent gossiping at the water cooler or sitting in some smoke -filled lunch room or watching television will count for anything ?’’ – Robin Sharma, The Monk who sold his Ferrari. As I read through the words, it set in motion a string of thoughts of the time I spent in Coffee breaks or small talks at the Pantry. Some of us take pride in the fact that we work 12 hours a day, but if it was to be measured against Productivity, will it sum up? Towards the start of my career, I had the flaw of procrastination, especially if the task did not interest me. As a result, I spent much time dreading about it than the time it would have taken to complete. Over a period of time, self-discipline taught me the virtues of Productivity. I started my morning with a to-do list, ranked in order of priority, which set the tone for a fruitful day. I learnt to mix and match, ie doing a task that I like and going onto the other which is less interesting. Also, I learnt to say “No “for multiple Coffee breaks politely, citing deadlines. Since the major part of my day was filled with meetings, I took efforts to comb through the minutest of details that might crop up, thereby avoiding the risk of meetings running behind schedule. In my experience, I have found that […]