Success Story | Everyday is a Day to Restart Again

I  am : –  Kalpana, a Software Engineer, wife & mother of two, multitasking homemaker. My Expertise: Web Development of apps for Androids, iPhones, thin client, set top boxes, tabs. My passion: Computers Work to me is: a way of creatively working on technology.  Having worked for almost a decade, I wanted to take a sabbatical to look after my family and two beautiful kids.   How I used the time of break:  A career gap of 8 long years and every day was the day to get started. I connected with friends who inspired me and helped me to upgrade myself through skype. I did freelance projects and developed some confidence. I kept looking for projects and opportunities and volunteered in neighbourhood training centers too. My Motto: Never give up and keep moving. Even the smallest step taken is an effort towards the goal. Do not shut yourself up. And keep meeting people. Start networking. Not everyday will bring required results, but a result is guaranteed every day. HSI platform: Her Second Innings, helps capable women professionals /homemakers to find their calling in their second innings. Women looking to get back to their careers, or starting a career and needing advice to pursue alternate career to be financially independent have a community to help them through HSI. Assessment: Assessment programs were conducted by the team and the feedback was that there was a knowledge gap. This was a great breakthrough, as now I knew exactly where I was lagging […]

The Power Of Assertive Communication

The power of assertive communication

Assertive communication is the ability to express our ideas and feelings in an open and uninhibited manner. It is the trait of standing up for oneself and refuse to be taken advantage of by others. It is the recognition of one’s rights while still respecting other’s rights. Typically, women are seen as passive by the society and men are expected to be dominant. However, the behaviour of a person depends on his/her culture, upbringing, emotional support structure, work environment, genes and a whole lot of things. If we can ignore the stereotyping by the society, both men and women can be assertive by choice. For some, assertiveness is a second nature and comes very easily whereas for others it is like every other behaviour, schooled and practised. Given any situation, we have couple of choices on how we can react. We have a choice to be either meek or be assertive. A lot of confusion prevails as to whether a person is assertive or aggressive. Aggressiveness is the ‘fight’ response and is detrimental to relationships. Assertiveness is the logical response and is not driven by emotions. Submissiveness, on the other hand, is the ‘flight’ response where we tend to give away our rights. We are habituated to respecting authority and are told to adjust to situations right from childhood, so that we can live in harmony. But we do not shy away from using aggression over weaker sections when the situation is not conducive to us. Is there a need […]

4 Tips For Effective Interaction With Management

Tips for effective interaction with management

Image Credit: Freepik How do you make yourself seen, heard and talked about by the top bosses? You work hard, smart and are valuable enough to provide inputs but are they listening? More commonly Management holds the responsibility of providing vision, inspiration and motivation for those being led and uses tools like surveys, focus groups, one-on-one meetings and communication activities. They follow the Top-Down approach. But effective communication is established when employees are provided with opportunity to ask questions, receive clarity and accomplish their task with clear steps to complete goals. Communication is only communication if the message gets where it needs to go and is received by those who need to hear it. Bottom-up communication (Employees to management) provides information about employee needs, values, perceptions and opinions. This helps the management to select and tailor their programs and policies to meet the specific needs of their employees. Here are few tips to communicate effectively through bottom up approach.   Make yourself seen – Communicate face to face wherever you can. Research shows that less than 10 percent of the meaning of a message is carried through the actual words. If we just have written communication without any face-to-face communication, people are going to miss the message. Even through technology through videos seeing each other’s’ faces makes a huge difference. Eyes do not lie and you can express better.   Make yourself heard – While talking, keep your voice and tone low, positive and yet assertive. Using statements like “I fully understand […]

See Sawing Life – Balancing With Fun

“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices’’.  – Betsy Jacobson Family or Work? – It’s a dilemma that most of us are set with…torn between the endearing love for family and fierce determination to succeed in profession. While it’s difficult to weigh one against the other, best way is to balance it out, thereby creating a very cordial environment. It’s alike a See-Saw, balancing with fun. Normal social construct is that spending more time at office portrays a person’s ambition. Being driven by this paradigm tends to take a toll on the concept of balance. Work – life balance is very vital so that one is not compromised for the other. While we are driven by family values, credit has to be given to the fact that Career is built through years of hard work and unyielding efforts. Both play an important role in our lives. Some tips to balance both:   Prioritize your day and plan accordingly: If you need to leave early or will be delayed coming home, set the right expectations with your family members. Check if your better half can come in early if you are held up at work.   The Art of saying NO: There is little need to take up every assignment that comes your way. Weigh the opportunity and judge how it will help you grow professionally. If it doesn’t add any value, let it go.   Delegate: Whether at work […]

Ways To Self-Motivation – Your Key To Success

Image credit: Pexels What can be greater than a few encouraging words by a friend? What can be better than your near and dear ones cheering you on or boosting your morale? The answer is “self-motivation”. Nothing surpasses being your own little motivator. Your lovely bunch of people definitely got your back. But, the urge to work towards a goal should come from within, always. Here are a few ways to be your own cheerleader.   Keep goals in mind: First of all, set your goals. Make sure the goals you set for yourself are realistic- getting back to a job, buying a new house, planning a dream vacation or even losing weight, for instance. Whatever work you’re engaged in, always let the goals be there at the back of your mind. Remind yourself of the goals after you wake up and before going to bed. You can write down your long-term goals on a piece of paper, too. That way you would be documenting them and this shows you are serious about them. Don’t let those dreams fade into nothingness. Let visualization of your goals be your first step to motivation. Do not, however, constantly brood or obsess over them.   Divide it into little tasks: Now that your goals are sorted, you need a proper plan to achieve them. Plan out daily or weekly tasks that you need to complete in order to reach your goals. If you are trying to lose weight, plan out your diet and […]

A Little Guide to Positivity

Image credit: Pixabay None of us have a fairy godmother, who would turn the world in our favor with the wave of her wand. You need to squeeze yourself out of all the tight spots that trap you, all alone. And when things go really down, you will always get vague bits of advice like “Be positive”. Wait. But how exactly do I be positive? Should I hope for the best? Or should I squint at my miserable condition to spot the good things? Well, you need to do both. And much more. Keeping fingers crossed- Hoping for the best forms a very basic step to positive thinking. All you have to do is frequently visualize yourself living the life you want to or any other goal you want to reach, and simultaneously make continuous efforts to achieve it. Simple enough? Not really. Here is something else you will require.  Cut down on worrying- Thinking about a bright future is not as easy as it sounds. If the process of success is taking too long, the human mind is bound to have negative thoughts or go into despair. It will make you ponder over all the negative possibilities that may come into being. It will also have discouraging thoughts like “Nothing’s going to change” or “I am stuck up with this forever” or “What if it gets even worse?” Did you see how the mind is gradually pulling you in the swamp of hopelessness? To get out of this, you’ll […]

Personal Finance Planning

Image Credit: Pixabay American author Hervey Allen once said “The only time you really live fully is from thirty to sixty. The youth – are slaves to dreams, the old – servants of regrets. Only the middle aged have all their five senses in the keeping of their wit” Well, we need all the wits we can to get through the phase. Unlike the 20’s, a responsibility doesn’t seem real until we hit the 30’s.  Marriage, kid /s, Home loan, Car loan and many other things suddenly feel like a big mountain that we have to cross and cannot have an escape route. Break up of goals: Short-Mid-Long – Financial planning is always goal oriented. This might sound a bit obvious that one must have short (less than five years), middle (7-10 years) and long term goals (20 years plus). But, it’s the most important step. For instance, as a short-term goal, you may need to plan for the kid’s primary school fees, which could be even as high as Rs 80,000 a year, Or more. Mid-terms goals could be a car (may be a second one), a family vacation abroad, kids’ higher education; long-term goals could mean buying a bigger house, and retirement needs. As a rule, 10 % of the post-tax income of those starting their career at around age 25 can be the starting point. Over time, as the income increases, up to 15 % can give you a good head start and a buffer. As you […]

I am a certified language expert so what’s next?

Certified language expert - image of a professional women holding a card reading EXPERT

Image credit: Ichas Passing in a theoretical  exam or completing a course from reputed institute will not grab any opportunity for yourself. You need to practice  the language daily to improve your vocabulary, diction, pronunciation at last your writing skills. Instantly you feel that you can attempt talking with your people around you (to whom the language is definitely going to be some Latin or Greek). How to gain Expertise in new language? Facebook groups The Foreign Language Exchange has language experts or like minded people across the globe and they have dedicated Whatsapp group for every language wherein you will have peers who will be native speakers or beginners like you. Daily lessons will help you out in improving your knowledge. If you are looking for any Indian based closed group join Learn or Teach any Indian or Foreign Language. How to progress? Translators or Interpreters: Translators and Interpreters (ProZ.com) and Translators n Interpreters Community by Modlingua Closed group  are international  groups for interpreters and translators whereas Bilingual translator Interpreter India Indian based group wherein you can find freelancer opportunities. Foreign Language Trainer: LiveGuru.in recruits online trainers to conduct training’s. Or you can launch your own portal or channel to start teaching people. Freelancer Content Writer: Being a Content Writer or Blogger myself I found many opportunities  in a closed group that has been created for Content Writer Tourist Guide: Have a tie up with tourism or travel agents who can give freelancing assignments to guide tourists from abroad. […]

No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

Woman looking at the mirror and smiling happily - No matter what the world says, its ok to live your life

Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Be Your Own Boss! Be An Entrepreneur

Be your own boss, become an entrepreneur - Image of white table with a phone some potted plants, book and pen

Image credit: Pexels ‘’I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul’- Invictus’ by William Ernest Henley. Gone are days when the tradition of preparing for bank or other competitive exams was inculcated in our minds as a teenager. Breaking barriers, Women have been a powerful force in all facets of work including start-ups. The conventional role of choosing safe jobs is no more a compulsion and the world has given a plethora of opportunities to be your own boss, to be an entrepreneur! There is no need to fit into a mould when you can stand out and create your own identity. With the advancement of technology, it’s possible to start a business and promote the same without much hassle. A few points to be considered before commencing your business: Understand your strengths and interests. It’s easy to succeed in an industry where your passion lies. Be cognizant of your finances. Start small, eventually with the expansion, investors would follow. Capitalise on Social networking sites and utilise it most to promote the brand. Nothing substitutes hard work, especially in the initial stages when business is at infancy. Try to have a network of likeminded people who will guide you during testing times. As an entrepreneur, you’ll have the privilege of working at your own hours; implement your ideas that were hitherto not heeded. It’s not necessary to start on giant scale, a simple business from home, working flexi hours and making money is a […]