Knowing Yourself Will Lead To True Success

Knowing yourself will lead to true success in life

“Never limit yourself because of others limited imagination; never limit others because of your own limited imagination.” – Mae Jemison Isn’t it a very strange question to ask whether he or she knows about themselves? C’mon! who else would know about us other than ourselves? But as like everything else in this world, knowing oneself is also an art that has to be learned to be a success in life. Knowing oneself is not knowing about your favourite food or colour but to move a bit deeper from the surface. It is about your insecurities and your idiosyncrasies, your priorities, your beliefs, your values in life and your passions. The first thing that I have always been told and have read in innumerable books and articles on self-motivation is, to know my strengths and weakness. How many of us really know our strengths? If you know your strengths and weakness really well, I am sure you would have found a way to make your life more satisfactory. But we usually fail to recognize them due to various factors. Ask yourself the following questions and see if you really know yourself: 1. What are your core values? These are values on which you would never compromise irrespective of the surroundings in which you are in. Make a list of top 10 adjectives of the characteristic traits that describe you. 2. What is missing from your life right now? Too many disappointments could have left you in a state of  numbness and […]

Money Matters for Women’s Financial Independence

Money matters

“The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me” – Ayn Rand. When I drew my first salary , a mere amount of Rs.3000 more than a decade and half ago, my heart was pounding  with a potpourri of emotions – excitement, satisfaction, sense of achievement, but the one I vividly remember is the exhilarating thought of Independence. Years on and I reckon it’s one of the best moments in life – ability to take control and move ahead. After all, money matters significantly in our lives. Gone are the days when women were financially dependent on someone for their survival – Father, Husband, Children and so on. Today, with the number of working women rising in rapid numbers, the concept of financial independence is much relevant than ever. Women are excellent managers of wealth creation as well as retention. The orthodox of limiting them from handling financial matters at young age deprives them of their decision making capabilities. In my opinion, the main reasons for women to have financial independence are encapsulated below: 1. Empowerment : Women by nature possess strong qualities of decision making. A well balanced financial portfolio will give an edge to act independently and make better choices in all walks of life. 2. Rainy days : At times of unforeseen contingencies, it’s a blessing to have some money saved up so that the need to bank on someone is minimised. Apart from eventualities, it’s wise to have a Nest […]

Ten Things to Let Go for A Happy 2019

Happy 2019

Another New Year is here and I am sure you are looking forward to a wonderful time full of surprises. However, there are few things you need to cast aside in order to make sure the New Year really brings happiness in your life.   Gossiping: “Gossip reflects the insecurity of those who initiate it” No matter how appalling, intriguing or accurate a particular piece of information about a person is, refrain from passing it on to others. Not even casually. Resist the urge to give away unnecessary details about anyone. Try not to spread the bad happenings in others’ lives. If you find out that your girl gang has started sharing some juicy piece of news about someone, make it a habit to mention a good thing about that person or try to change the subject. That way you will keep up the positivity and tone down unnecessary drama. Badmouthing others won’t keep your mind happy and peaceful.   Judging: “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself” Literally every single person in this world is guilty of jumping to conclusions about other people. The worst part is that these conclusions are derived from some random aspects about that person. Believe it or not, you cannot judge a person’s character based on their dress sense, whether or not they have tattoos, their hairstyle, the kind of job they have or even their past mistakes. Be kind. Open your mind and your heart a bit more […]

Important Interview Skills to Land Your Dream Job

Important Interview skills

Now that you have got a call from your dream company, are you getting worried for your interview? Even the smartest and capable person does get a bit jittery before an interview. Do not worry, just be yourself.  Remember that if you do land a job where you had given exaggerated/wrong information, then you will find that you are not suited for the job very soon and will end up in a quagmire. So, the easiest way to prepare for an interview, is by being yourself. But it is very essential that you be mentally prepared on how you will approach the interview. Be thorough with what is written on your resume. If you have taken a break in career, be ready to face some questions that would cater specifically to your break period. The interviewer would like to be appraised of what you have done to upskill yourself and to be recruited again in that specific field. It is very essential that you be dressed in appropriate clothes for the interview. The clothes will have to suit the type of job that you are opting for.  Go for a wardrobe change if you are trying for a job, after a long stint at home. The cue is being presentable and professional without being overboard. You need to appear relaxed and confident. It is not necessary that you be able to answer all the questions. Be Honest. But there are some positions where the interviewer may be checking on how […]

Stand Tall and Face it all with Confidence . . .

Stand tall and face it all with confidence

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence ” – Helen Keller During my first year of college, I had the privilege of being an Air cadet in NCC which presented me the opportunity to fly Gliders. In my first session, I vividly recall my Wing Commander saying “Flying is all about gaining Confidence”. Little did I know the significance of those words until a later stage in life. I always had the attitude of “Stand tall and Face it all”. Confidence is something that can’t be built in a day. I believe life is a series of occurrences with each experience and challenge presenting us newer opportunities to strengthen and gain conviction. While there is no ‘’One approach fits all” methodology, I am listing a few pointers that has helped me over the years. Get out of your Comfort zone : It is cosy to bask in the familiar, but to progress, it’s necessary to step out of the zone and be prepared to feel awkward. Pushing your limits and embarking on the unknown will provide you with immense confidence. Avoid Comparisons : Many a day is lost in comparing our lives with others. The advent of Social media while a boon, casts gloom when used to equate our living standards. It’s highly pertinent that we develop the maturity to be happy with what we have. Look for happiness in the littlest of things : It’s not always the money or […]

Challenges after a Career Break and their Solutions

Career break challenges & solutions

  To all the stay-at-home moms, to all the housewives and to those ladies who have taken a career break for reasons of their own: getting your career back on track or returning to a job after years is a tough task and you have a lot to catch up on. All this while you have been engaged in chores of the house and the thought of being financially independent like before seems like a long lost dream. There is no guarantee for success. However, you must pursue your passion and try to win the job you deserve. You will face a lot of challenges on your way to the goal. But don’t worry, you are a woman of grit and can overcome these challenges easily.   Low Confidence: Your confidence would take you to the zenith of your career, but unfortunately, this is the time when your confidence is most probably at its lowest. A good way to avoid this situation is to start early i.e. prepare yourself mentally beforehand. It means utilizing your free time for some classes like public speaking, learning a new language or any other course. The main aim here is to interact with new people while you learn something new which, if possible, should be connected to your field. This won’t take much of your time and will gradually boost your confidence. Start gaining confidence on a small scale and you are good to face the bigger challenges.   Missing out on new skills: […]

Restarting Professional Career After A Break

Restarting Professional career after a break

Returning to the professional life after a career break seems very difficult for everyone. Companies often think that the candidate has lost the relevant skills due to career break and they start refusing such profiles. After being an efficient employee for years, an individual’s candidature is continuously refused by many companies only due to career break. Many women on career break are facing such difficulties to return back to their professional life irrespective of their passion to get back to work. Are you sailing in the same boat? Is this your story too? I must say, Women must not limit themselves due to the limited imagination of others. There are several ways to benefit from your career break. Some of them include: Bring more positive energy into yourself Your career break is the best time when you can motivate yourself more regarding your professional achievements earned so far. Try to cherish those professional achievements that you received appreciation for your efforts. It will help you to boost your confidence, and bring more positive energy. You will find more determination and focus to return back to your professional career. Improvise your skills Don’t just sit idle during this career break. Taking a course, learning new language or any other skills is of great benefit for you as you will feel more competent.  If you have interest in writing, you can start developing your writing skills like me. I have started writing after taking a professional career break. It helps me to […]

Why a homemaker should return to her career.

Homemaker turned career woman - image of a woman in blazer walking with a smile

Image credit: Pexels “Once a homemaker, not always a homemaker” You are blessed with the ability to bear the offspring of the human species. The teeny baby that just arrived out of you needed you the most and you went for a career break. There are some capable women who got back to their jobs right after their maternity leave was over. Then there are some lovely homely ladies who decided to stay at home just to look after their little ones. Well, kudos to both of them. Let’s talk about the homemakers. Dear homemakers, I know you might now be cozy in the comfort zone of your house, venturing out only to run some errands or meet a few friends. But I also know that you do have a secret desire in your heart to go back to the job you once had, to do something- anything to get back to the life of a proud, working, independent woman. If you don’t, here are a few reasons why you should:   Money- Although most people overtly accept the philosophical convention that money doesn’t bring happiness, the thought of having abundant money in their possession is exhilarating for many. You could earn yourself and contribute your share to the income. You can even save some of it for your child’s education, the latest car, an exclusive holiday trip or the exceedingly overpriced branded dresses you longed to have. More the money, more the exciting stuff can you buy. In case […]

Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Believe in Yourself – Build Your Self Confidence

Good Things Happen, When You Believe In Yourself! image of cane flower basket with colorful tulips, placed on green grass under bright blue sky

                                                                                             Image Courtesy: Publicdomainpictures ” The best way to gain self confidence is to do, what you are afraid to do”  – Swati Sharma Born to a nuclear family and then married into a joint family 21 years ago, my life has always revolved around my folks. Initially, I was happy being married and the new and exciting life did not give me any opportunity to get bored, the result being that I never felt like taking up a career. After a few years, when I started getting fed up of my daily routine and thought of doing something constructive with my life, one of the things that held me back from pursuing the thought was fear of failure. Basically, I understood that I lacked the self confidence that I needed to overcome that fear.   This is something which I am sure most of us have dealt with at some point in life. The main question is – how to gain that much needed self confidence?   Personally, I have worked on a few ways to beat that fear and that in turn has helped me to achieve that confidence. Below, I am sharing a few tips which have helped me in pursuing my […]