The Power Of Assertive Communication

The power of assertive communication

Assertive communication is the ability to express our ideas and feelings in an open and uninhibited manner. It is the trait of standing up for oneself and refuse to be taken advantage of by others. It is the recognition of one’s rights while still respecting other’s rights. Typically, women are seen as passive by the society and men are expected to be dominant. However, the behaviour of a person depends on his/her culture, upbringing, emotional support structure, work environment, genes and a whole lot of things. If we can ignore the stereotyping by the society, both men and women can be assertive by choice. For some, assertiveness is a second nature and comes very easily whereas for others it is like every other behaviour, schooled and practised. Given any situation, we have couple of choices on how we can react. We have a choice to be either meek or be assertive. A lot of confusion prevails as to whether a person is assertive or aggressive. Aggressiveness is the ‘fight’ response and is detrimental to relationships. Assertiveness is the logical response and is not driven by emotions. Submissiveness, on the other hand, is the ‘flight’ response where we tend to give away our rights. We are habituated to respecting authority and are told to adjust to situations right from childhood, so that we can live in harmony. But we do not shy away from using aggression over weaker sections when the situation is not conducive to us. Is there a need […]

Career Tracking while on a Career Break

Career tracking whole on a career break

Image Credit: Pixabay The most important dilemma faced by a woman today who wants to get back to work, is where to start from. Do you want to get back to where you left off or begin anew? I believe it is always good to start with an end in mind, to have a goal to chase. So how can you tackle your career tracking while on a break? Where to begin? Start with asking yourselves, what you want to do next? Is it the same role you would like to grow in or explore a new career? The advantage of a career break is that it gives you immense time to think of what you truly love to do and to chalk out your priorities, both personal and professional before you are ready to get back into the saddle. Basically, define a goal, an end you want to achieve. How to develop a career track? Define your Goals: Once you have your goal defined, the next step is to assess your existing skills and the skills you need to acquire in order to successfully achieve your goal. This will help you to find out the skill gaps and determine a list to work on. It could mean you will need to start from the bottom, in case of a new career option or exert yourself to pick up from where you left off. Skill enhancement techniques: You can work to acquire those skills through online tutorials, coaching, speaking to […]

4 Tips For Effective Interaction With Management

Tips for effective interaction with management

Image Credit: Freepik How do you make yourself seen, heard and talked about by the top bosses? You work hard, smart and are valuable enough to provide inputs but are they listening? More commonly Management holds the responsibility of providing vision, inspiration and motivation for those being led and uses tools like surveys, focus groups, one-on-one meetings and communication activities. They follow the Top-Down approach. But effective communication is established when employees are provided with opportunity to ask questions, receive clarity and accomplish their task with clear steps to complete goals. Communication is only communication if the message gets where it needs to go and is received by those who need to hear it. Bottom-up communication (Employees to management) provides information about employee needs, values, perceptions and opinions. This helps the management to select and tailor their programs and policies to meet the specific needs of their employees. Here are few tips to communicate effectively through bottom up approach.   Make yourself seen – Communicate face to face wherever you can. Research shows that less than 10 percent of the meaning of a message is carried through the actual words. If we just have written communication without any face-to-face communication, people are going to miss the message. Even through technology through videos seeing each other’s’ faces makes a huge difference. Eyes do not lie and you can express better.   Make yourself heard – While talking, keep your voice and tone low, positive and yet assertive. Using statements like “I fully understand […]

See Sawing Life – Balancing With Fun

“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices’’.  – Betsy Jacobson Family or Work? – It’s a dilemma that most of us are set with…torn between the endearing love for family and fierce determination to succeed in profession. While it’s difficult to weigh one against the other, best way is to balance it out, thereby creating a very cordial environment. It’s alike a See-Saw, balancing with fun. Normal social construct is that spending more time at office portrays a person’s ambition. Being driven by this paradigm tends to take a toll on the concept of balance. Work – life balance is very vital so that one is not compromised for the other. While we are driven by family values, credit has to be given to the fact that Career is built through years of hard work and unyielding efforts. Both play an important role in our lives. Some tips to balance both:   Prioritize your day and plan accordingly: If you need to leave early or will be delayed coming home, set the right expectations with your family members. Check if your better half can come in early if you are held up at work.   The Art of saying NO: There is little need to take up every assignment that comes your way. Weigh the opportunity and judge how it will help you grow professionally. If it doesn’t add any value, let it go.   Delegate: Whether at work […]

Ways To Self-Motivation – Your Key To Success

Image credit: Pexels What can be greater than a few encouraging words by a friend? What can be better than your near and dear ones cheering you on or boosting your morale? The answer is “self-motivation”. Nothing surpasses being your own little motivator. Your lovely bunch of people definitely got your back. But, the urge to work towards a goal should come from within, always. Here are a few ways to be your own cheerleader.   Keep goals in mind: First of all, set your goals. Make sure the goals you set for yourself are realistic- getting back to a job, buying a new house, planning a dream vacation or even losing weight, for instance. Whatever work you’re engaged in, always let the goals be there at the back of your mind. Remind yourself of the goals after you wake up and before going to bed. You can write down your long-term goals on a piece of paper, too. That way you would be documenting them and this shows you are serious about them. Don’t let those dreams fade into nothingness. Let visualization of your goals be your first step to motivation. Do not, however, constantly brood or obsess over them.   Divide it into little tasks: Now that your goals are sorted, you need a proper plan to achieve them. Plan out daily or weekly tasks that you need to complete in order to reach your goals. If you are trying to lose weight, plan out your diet and […]

Gender Diversity in workplaces in India

History shows that women, the world over, have had to fight for equal rights, be it the right to vote, the right to work or even the right to reproduce. Even today when the world has advanced so much technologically, women are not considered at par with men and are often discriminated against even though there are laws that ban discrimination. In India, as elsewhere in the world, as more and more women have access to a higher education, have awareness of their rights, have aspirations and capabilities, their numbers at the workplace are steadily increasing. Indian women are not only handling administrative and clerical jobs but are also taking on managerial positions. But is this increasing presence of women at all levels in the workplace also fetching more rewards and success? Women are often discriminated against and receive less remuneration as compared to men for the same/ similar work. A woman may be more qualified but may be passed over for promotion. Gender diversity is the need of the hour. What is gender diversity? Gender diversity in a workplace is when an organization has equal and fair representation of both men and women.The advent of multi- national companies in India has played a major role in increasing gender diversity. But the Indian companies do not seem to be adopting this mantra of gender diversity. Studies show that women make better leaders than their male counterparts, women in leadership roles are more loyal to their organization, women are more creative […]

3 M’s… Mantra for Morale

Image credit: Pixabay Feeling non productive, tired, jaded, low on morale and confidence? Workplace or home, inside or outside, feeling low just creeps in at the most unwanted time. In such situations, we just wait for a magic to happen that would uplift us. A morale booster is needed. Here are 3 boosters that exist within you and you can access them anytime you want.   Motivation – Defined as a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way. What is the reason that makes you jump up and charge ahead? That reason that moves you is what motivates you. Mundane activities start to demotivate us. Its not very exciting to wake up each morning and feel like the day is running you and not the other way round. Whether it’s for a minute, an hour or a day, that one reason that helps you brighten up and lighten up is your boost. Coffee, exercise, a call, a note, a picture, a song, a bird, a dress, a scent, a move, a bend…..the list is exhaustive. These appear non existential but are the very source of sparking up your existence. Notice how these small little things contribute to the day in a big way. Motivation is no magic or a miracle, it’s an element inside you that keeps you going. Stay motivated.   Meraki – This is a word that modern Greeks often use to describe doing something with soul, creativity, or love — when you put […]

Career Metamorphosis – Expert to a Beginner

Career metamorphosis

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it’’ – Steve Jobs Change – it’s a word that invokes mixture of feelings – Fear of the unknown, Anxiety about the results, Excitement in doing something new…all at once. For most of us who chose a career way ahead in early 20’s after careful deliberation, retracting from that and hopping onto something new might be unsettling. The metamorphosis of an ‘’Expert’’ to a ‘’Beginner’’ is always a bit daunting. While change is never easy, it takes immense hard work to succeed in a new venture. Often, it’s better to jump in and face the challenges than to sit and contemplate endlessly. Whether it’s intentional or owing to circumstances, few do’s to guide during the transition of Career change:   Introspect and Act : Before you begin, analyse your strengths, reassess your skills, areas of expertise and choose the field. Recollect your school or college days and delve into your interests, do a reality check to see if you can still make a living out of it.   Expect the Unexpected : Once finalised, understand the requirements of your new job. Work hard and be […]

Career Break landed me on a road I never dreamt of travelling

Image Credit: Novak Yesterday I was on 365th Day of 28th year of my life. Only one year in 20’s then I would be a Trigenerian. Last night before falling asleep I sat for a while to look back into my past, First fifteen years of life is as same as any other kid, catching up on my milestones as an infant, learning fundamental education, running an academic race. During my teenage years preparing for board exam, sailing in science stream to get enrolled into a professional college. With all expectations I started pursuing my professional degree. Like every other individual I had dreamt of how my college days would be fun filled, explore a lot. But it remained same as my previous years. Model exams, practical were integral part of our routine. I reached pre final year where soft skills was introduced which would help every student to grab an opportunity in MNC. Final year sowed the seed of responsibility as a daughter and as an individual. I knew after this I could never relive the life of a student. Landed in a decent job. Initially I was overwhelmed about coding for a specific reason (It was my favorite since my college days. I felt it dealt with getting more creative). I had chosen my career. Days passed I realized somewhere deep in my heart my goals were spoon fed by my boss in addition to someone else having a hold on me as well as my time. I […]

Are You Financially Fit?

  For any middle class family in India, money means the simple cycle of earning, paying bills, make a living and spending. But this cycle is given many twist and turns. People are earning, but not always by the right means. People are spending too, but not always on the right things. And in between of it all we blame “money” to be the culprit of every sin. Well, let’s ask ourselves then.  Do we use money or does money drive us? Every household also runs on a budget. Sometimes we step over it, sometimes we are miles away from it. A budget however is the only parameter that gives us   a real picture of our finance. Is finance the amount of money saved in bank? The answer is partly yes and partly no. The reason why it is no, is because while the amount saved makes us feel secured about the future, it also makes us feel insecure because it’s there and still not being used. This is almost like a catch 22 situation. This indecisiveness often leads to worries and stress too. Interestingly just like there is a concept of IQ, where a human’s awareness about various aspects is measured. There is an EQ (Emotional Quotient), where a human’s emotional quotient is measured. How aware is he/she about his/her own emotions. On the same lines, FQ (Financial quotient) too should be a barometer. Financial quotient could be the awareness of how well does one manage his/her own finance. […]