Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Working to Live or Living to Work? Find The Right Balance

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Image credit: Lukas From Pexels “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life”: Hillary Rodham Clinton. The quote makes us think…doesn’t it? We intertwine work with everything else and then start looking for “life” in that whirlpool. Little do we realize that work is just a part of the big picture called “life”.  Often the magnanimity of life is overshadowed by the slice of “work” that is a part of it.  Just like how family, passion, hobby are all slices too. There is no second guessing to the fact that we work an earning towards living and we work more to earn more for a better life.  However, in the midst of it all we fail to acknowledge the existence of life. The present that we are living in. We rush, run and chase but have to remind ourselves to stop, breathe and live too.  Life is the best gift that a human has ever received. But in the pursuit of living we forget the essence of life. So, a balance is sought after for a balance in work – life.  Technically, a woman who has a career and goes out of home to earn is a working woman. But what about the woman who stays at home and works for the home. Isn’t she a working woman too? Yes she is. And very rightly so. So why should “work/life” balance be applicable to a woman working outside the home and not for the one at home. Whether she […]

A life not so extra-ordinary may not necessarily be an unfulfilled one…

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Image Courtesy: Freepik About a decade ago, I was happily living my life in Bangalore. The city has everything that a 20 something could ask for. Moving from Mumbai, the city was much more affordable, it has a cosmopolitan outlook, lot of places to hang out and the city was safer for women than say Delhi. Yes, I was not growing professionally but other than that life was as happy as it could be. I was at peace with myself and my surroundings. To top it all I had a lovely apartment with a balcony overlooking a beautiful garden and a swimming pool. A Mumbaikar can not ask for more. Just as I was thanking the Gods above for the life I was living, the Gods played a cruel joke and sent across a job offer from London. Everything about the London based job was exactly what I was looking for: reputed organization, global role, growth and opportunity to be trained and to work with the best. However, those were only the pros, the cons were going away from friends and family, living in a city with one of the highest cost of living in the world, a place where you will always be an immigrant and a culture that you have to make an effort to get used to. When we are young we don’t necessarily understand the importance of the cushion of family (immediate and extended) and close friends in our life. We assume we can take everything […]

Stop Second-Guessing Your Decision of Taking a Career Break

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Image Courtesy: globomax.hu If I were to interview you and ask ‘Describe what you went through when you took a career break to take care of your child?’ Where would you start? Do you start with how your ambitions got axed due to factors beyond your control? Or how you miss talking about your field of work with an adult? Or why you even bothered to study so much when eventually you had to give up everything you ever worked so hard for? OR Do you start with how meaningfully you have impacted the lives of your kid(s)? Or how you have been able to provide your kid(s) a strong foundation and inculcate in them the right values for life? Or how you have been able and willing to forgo your career to give them your best personal care and quality time? You may probably respond with a jumble of these. And rightly so, since women give up a significant career or the prospect of having one when they quit in order to take care of kids or family. Let’s face it – we belong to a generation that is bogged by opportunities and the abounding choices only make our decisions tougher. We are educated enough to dream and pursue ambitions, yet many of us voluntarily take a step back to be able to nurture a growing child to our satisfaction. This paradox of choice is bound to plague us. What we need to do is acknowledge that these feeling […]

The Art Of Balancing Act

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Image Courtesy: mapixel.freegreatpicture.com We all are faced with challenges and choices. Most often a woman has to make a choice between work and family, career and marriage. Well, one does not need to be sacrificed for the other. Both are equally important and contribute in totality to a woman’s life. They can very well coexist with a little smart planning and doing what we call is the balancing act. Here are a few tips that can be followed to master the balancing act.   Accept the change: Most women try to continue the lifestyle they had before marriage, after marriage too. Though this is not an unusual expectation to have, it is an unusual experience for sure. Changes will come. Priorities will change and things may not seem as before. But that’s what it’s all about. To accommodate that change into the current lifestyle. Accepting it makes the transition easier. Further as the brood increases with children, lifestyle will change more. A loud jarring tv channel with constant swaps, or a fight for the remote may replace a quiet evening watching your favorite Tv channel. That’s absolutely fine. Maybe an occasional quiet evening someday will help in rejuvenating.   Balance and not juggle: Most people get confused between balancing and juggling. Juggling is doing too many things at the same time whereas balancing is the art of prioritizing and doing things one by one. A work life balance is achieved when a bit of priority is marked to certain activities. Anything that […]

Work-Life Balance – Quiz

    Image: vimeo.com You hear about work-life balance all the time, but what does it really mean, and how do you know if you’ve achieved it? “Work-life balance describes a condition when a person is able to manage responsibilities from both work and life in a healthy, productive way,” said Dr. Joanie Connell, psychologist and founder of “Flexible Work Solutions”. “From an individual’s point of view, it means having a job that meets personal demands and having personal demands that don’t interfere with work demands,” Connell said. “From an employer’s perspective, it means offering jobs and a work environment where employees can meet the needs of their personal lives.” And establishing a good work-life balance can be more important than you realize, Connell said. In fact, a lack of work-life balance, which leads to increased stress in employees, can have a huge impact on both employees and employers, she noted. “Examples of costs of long-term stress for the employee include more colds and flu due to a compromised immune system, irritability, depression, headaches, gastrointestinal disorders, infertility and heart disease, just to name a few,” Connell said. “Examples of costs for the employer include absenteeism, turnover, health care insurance and disability, as well as accidents on the job.” Not having a good work-life balance can also contribute to failed relationships, divorce and estrangement from family members, Connell added. Plus, it can affect your performance and cause you to lose your job entirely. And if you’re a business owner or an important […]