Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Chasing Dreams – My restart story

Chasing Dreams - My restart story

Image source: Pexels Today I was rudely woken up from my slumber by the shrill sound of the phone. Still groggy from sleep I answered the phone but after answering I was on cloud nine. I had become a celebrity overnight and I beamed with joy. The journey of my life was going to be published by Internshala an important website. I went into flashback. The lanky, school-girl who had opted for science in her plus two as she wanted to make her mark in the field of medicine. She came from a lineage of medicos, so it was a natural choice. But it seemed dissecting cadavers was not her cup of tea. So medicine was dropped and the focus was on research. She hoped to discover the ‘Elixir of life’. Armed with a doctoral degree she was ready to face the world. Her only aim was to procure a good job and she was rewarded in the form of a Research Associate-ship. It was a tenure bound project which she completed with elan. She hoped to reach for the stars with her academic excellence but it seems God had other plans for her. She soon found herself in holy matrimony and thus started a new phase in her life. She had procured a good job in a research institute. But within a year of marriage, she had embraced motherhood and career was put on a backburner. Friends and relatives chided her for leaving her job but she had taken […]

Stop Limiting Yourself – You Are Capable of Much More Than You Think

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“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself’’― Andrew Murphy Often, when we think of failures in life, we find it easy to put forth the limitations we are set with….”not enough time’’ or ‘’no resources’’ or ‘’it dint work for me in the past’’. But think about it. All those chances you missed, the opportunities you didn’t exploit…could it be achieved with a little more determination and perseverance?  Sometimes we limit ourselves since we have little conviction in fighting for the things we need, whether it is at work or in personal life. A few experiences in life taught me a very important lesson – your life is in your hands, so are your successes and failures. I quite often marvel at the elephant story contemplating about how many of us are limited by the chain we have tied ourselves with. https://academictips.org/blogs/the-elephant-rope/ We can conquer all our fears once we unshackle our inhibitions and take control of our lives. Few pointers to guide you expand your horizons and live life to the fullest: 1) Don’t bask in the haven of comfort zone; instead get ready to venture out and feel awkward while learning something new. 2) Take action before it’s too late. Go on a road-trip, apply for that promotion or take charge of the next presentation you dread about. You’ll never know you’re potential if you don’t try. 3) Don’t let past failures define you. Learn your lesson, but have the faith to carry on despite […]

En route to Linguistic Career

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Image credit: studyfrenchspanish You may have to bear with me for a few minutes while I share a short recap. Exactly a month ago one of my bestie, Techie by profession and a doting mother, was in a deep oscillation whether to take up a offer from a Tier 2 MNC or to take a break in her career and be a SAHM for quite some time. The conversation lasted long, more than fifteen minutes. She asked me to explain about the career aspects in learning a Foreign Language. At that time I had no idea about it, but I  knew a few people who were pursuing a Linguistic Career. I concluded that I shall help her out once I ask them and let her know about it. That’s the birth story of this post. Pre-requisites: Self Motivation-Never give up attitude. Experts quote that learners feel fresh during their initial days but their zeal to learn fades when they find some hurdles during their process of learning. Redefine the course-Every learner has a unique style in accomplishing their goals. Be it an online study or direct classes make sure you redesign in such a way that it becomes user friendly. It will help you in progress. Read for Pleasure-An urge to read any kind of literature in the target language. Learn the day to day phrases/words which will lead you to break the complex grammatical structures into a simpler one. Practice makes Man Perfect: Speak to yourself in the second […]

Fun Alternatives For Ladies After A Career Break

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Image Credit: Pexels Did you plod your way through a hectic course, take the trouble to secure a good job and toil hard to earn a fat salary only to end up getting married, having children and staying at home totally unemployed? You now have your kids and home as your priority and perhaps you do not want to get back to your career by taking up a full fledged nine to five job like before. But the thought of doing nothing apart from your homely duties is quite discouraging. You have this urge to do something- anything that will showcase your talent, efforts and earn a good amount of money as well. Your formal education might or might not help you here, but this is the time your buried hobbies and passions should surface. Use your skills to earn money- at your own convenience. Here are some ways- If you often receive compliments for your dishes, use your cooking skills to open a blog or a YouTube channel and share your yummy recipes with the world and earn through advertisements. If you are not too tech-savvy or if you have no technical support, you can provide lunch boxes for the office going folk yearning for homemade food. To take matters further, you can even plan on opening your own little eatery if you have the resources.   Are you the kind of person who enthusiastically stays in shape? If yes, you can either be a yoga instructor, a Zumba […]

Career Resurgence

Career Resurgence

‘Everyone falls down. Getting back up is how you learn to walk.’ – Walt Disney Few Women have the luxury of an uninterrupted career. For others, there comes an inevitable situation which necessitates a break.  Besides from break, owing to a multitude of factors, some experience a slump and struggle for a Career Resurgence. Having ruled the roost for years, it seems daunting to make a comeback. There are moments of cynicism, with so many “If’s” and “Buts”. So, is it really that difficult to revive one’s career after a break or a slump? I personally feel it’s all in the head and with the virtues of determination and hard work, it’s possible to make a stellar comeback. During my one-on-one with my team, I came across the predicament of a few who felt buried deep and strived for a revival. In my discussions, I usually recommend a couple of things to be followed vigorously to gain a strong foothold and make headway. To summarise my views in a nutshell: Start slow and work hard. Don’t expect immediate results or vast transformations. Take time to soak in the work environment. If you were on break, exploit the skills you have acquired. For e.g., if the reason for break is maternity, utilise the immense patience, hardworking qualities you have obtained in the sabbatical to your advantage. Highlight your progress to your managers, big or small. It’s not about gloating, but showcasing your potential and reinstating the faith they have in you. Seek […]

3 tips to increase your self-confidence when you are on a career break

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Image credit: Pixabay When I quit my job, a well-meaning ex-boss told me to get back to work as quickly as possible or run the risk of losing my self-confidence. My initial reaction was ‘That doesn’t apply to me. I’m never going to feel low on self-confidence’. I was so sure that she was wrong. 4 years have passed by. And, I sometimes wonder – was she right all along? I have learned the hard way now, that the answer to the above question is – Yes and No. Yes – There are times when we women are likely to lose a bit of our self-confidence. When you have to quit a hectic and demanding career and find yourself all of a sudden with nothing equally challenging (mentally) to do, you feel the vacuum. When you are used to your talent and potential being utilized and suddenly it lies dormant and unutilized, it has a certain bearing on your self-confidence, especially in the long run.   And No – One does not feel low on self-confidence all the time. There are only certain times when it strikes. For instance, you apply for a position and notice that your current skill sets are inadequate or outdated.  Or when you notice that your earlier peers have charged ahead with their careers while you are still on a break. Times like these are when you feel irrelevant and low on self-confidence. And interestingly, not everyone loses their self-confidence on a career break. Some […]

Working to Live or Living to Work? Find The Right Balance

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Image credit: Lukas From Pexels “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life”: Hillary Rodham Clinton. The quote makes us think…doesn’t it? We intertwine work with everything else and then start looking for “life” in that whirlpool. Little do we realize that work is just a part of the big picture called “life”.  Often the magnanimity of life is overshadowed by the slice of “work” that is a part of it.  Just like how family, passion, hobby are all slices too. There is no second guessing to the fact that we work an earning towards living and we work more to earn more for a better life.  However, in the midst of it all we fail to acknowledge the existence of life. The present that we are living in. We rush, run and chase but have to remind ourselves to stop, breathe and live too.  Life is the best gift that a human has ever received. But in the pursuit of living we forget the essence of life. So, a balance is sought after for a balance in work – life.  Technically, a woman who has a career and goes out of home to earn is a working woman. But what about the woman who stays at home and works for the home. Isn’t she a working woman too? Yes she is. And very rightly so. So why should “work/life” balance be applicable to a woman working outside the home and not for the one at home. Whether she […]

Bridging the skill gap using online resources

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Image Credit: Pixabay, Freepik Perhaps you have very little time. Or maybe you don’t want to spend too much of your money on the new skill; or on a new course; or a new book. Maybe you just need to find a quick way to get little things done. The following online resource links will doubtlessly help you save time, money and efforts to get them accomplished! Learn programming and other topics related to computer science, totally free of cost. These courses on Python, Java, Linux, C++ etc. are divided according to the difficulty level- beginner, intermediate and advanced. Identify your level, choose a course, enroll and get going: https://medium.freecodecamp.org/440-free-online-programming-computer-science-courses-you-can-start-in-february-e075f920cb5b 2. Here is a website dedicated to Java newbies where you can learn Java and JavaScript through hundreds of training videos and learning material: https://javabrains.io/ 3. If you are a web developer and wish to enhance your skills, then the courses on this website are perfect for you! Ranging from lessons from scratch to the most advanced ones, these online courses are everything you look for as a web developer: https://codeburst.io/the-2018-web-developer-roadmap-826b1b806e8d 4. Here’s where you will find a list of about 600 courses launched by 200 universities. The subjects of the courses include computer science, programming, data science, mathematics, business, medicine, humanities, social science and art: https://qz.com/1120344/200-universities-just-launched-600-free-online-courses-heres-the-full-list/ 5. A list of websites offering online education support where you will find a number of academic lessons and courses: khanacademy.org academicearths.org coursera.com edx.org open2study.com academicjournals.org codeacademy.org youtube.com/education http://www.open.edu/openlearn/ http://ocw.tufts.edu/ http://www.oeconsortium.org/ https://online.nd.edu/what-we-do/ 6. […]

Why you should network even during a career break

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Image credit: Pexels When I took a career break to look after my child I initially wondered ‘Why would people keep in touch with me when I had nothing to offer them in return’? I blindly assumed that people with full-fledged careers had nothing to benefit from me and wouldn’t be interested in networking. I was very wrong. It took me a while to realize that most people were happy to network and keep in touch with me, even when I was on a career break. I only had to take care of these two aspects: (1) I needed to take the initiative to network, and, (2) I had to be conscious that I did not waste their time in any way Like me, if you were to network during a career break, you will find that as long as you do not waste their time with unnecessary messages or calls, they are most often happy to respond positively to your networking requests. But why? What is in it for them? First, most people do not have the time to network. Or, they do not make it a priority to invest in creating new contacts or to keep in touch with their existing ones. Which is why, when you take the initiative to create a connection or to keep in touch, they would not have too much of a problem in accommodating it. You would have, in fact, have saved them the time to network. Second, a majority of the […]