Ten Things to Let Go for A Happy 2019

Happy 2019

Another New Year is here and I am sure you are looking forward to a wonderful time full of surprises. However, there are few things you need to cast aside in order to make sure the New Year really brings happiness in your life.   Gossiping: “Gossip reflects the insecurity of those who initiate it” No matter how appalling, intriguing or accurate a particular piece of information about a person is, refrain from passing it on to others. Not even casually. Resist the urge to give away unnecessary details about anyone. Try not to spread the bad happenings in others’ lives. If you find out that your girl gang has started sharing some juicy piece of news about someone, make it a habit to mention a good thing about that person or try to change the subject. That way you will keep up the positivity and tone down unnecessary drama. Badmouthing others won’t keep your mind happy and peaceful.   Judging: “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself” Literally every single person in this world is guilty of jumping to conclusions about other people. The worst part is that these conclusions are derived from some random aspects about that person. Believe it or not, you cannot judge a person’s character based on their dress sense, whether or not they have tattoos, their hairstyle, the kind of job they have or even their past mistakes. Be kind. Open your mind and your heart a bit more […]

Stand Tall and Face it all with Confidence . . .

Stand tall and face it all with confidence

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence ” – Helen Keller During my first year of college, I had the privilege of being an Air cadet in NCC which presented me the opportunity to fly Gliders. In my first session, I vividly recall my Wing Commander saying “Flying is all about gaining Confidence”. Little did I know the significance of those words until a later stage in life. I always had the attitude of “Stand tall and Face it all”. Confidence is something that can’t be built in a day. I believe life is a series of occurrences with each experience and challenge presenting us newer opportunities to strengthen and gain conviction. While there is no ‘’One approach fits all” methodology, I am listing a few pointers that has helped me over the years. Get out of your Comfort zone : It is cosy to bask in the familiar, but to progress, it’s necessary to step out of the zone and be prepared to feel awkward. Pushing your limits and embarking on the unknown will provide you with immense confidence. Avoid Comparisons : Many a day is lost in comparing our lives with others. The advent of Social media while a boon, casts gloom when used to equate our living standards. It’s highly pertinent that we develop the maturity to be happy with what we have. Look for happiness in the littlest of things : It’s not always the money or […]

Decoding Stress

Image of a happy woman with arms stretched out enjoying the fall weather - Decoding stress

Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

Believe in Yourself – Build Your Self Confidence

Good Things Happen, When You Believe In Yourself! image of cane flower basket with colorful tulips, placed on green grass under bright blue sky

                                                                                             Image Courtesy: Publicdomainpictures ” The best way to gain self confidence is to do, what you are afraid to do”  – Swati Sharma Born to a nuclear family and then married into a joint family 21 years ago, my life has always revolved around my folks. Initially, I was happy being married and the new and exciting life did not give me any opportunity to get bored, the result being that I never felt like taking up a career. After a few years, when I started getting fed up of my daily routine and thought of doing something constructive with my life, one of the things that held me back from pursuing the thought was fear of failure. Basically, I understood that I lacked the self confidence that I needed to overcome that fear.   This is something which I am sure most of us have dealt with at some point in life. The main question is – how to gain that much needed self confidence?   Personally, I have worked on a few ways to beat that fear and that in turn has helped me to achieve that confidence. Below, I am sharing a few tips which have helped me in pursuing my […]