The Power Of Assertive Communication

The power of assertive communication

Assertive communication is the ability to express our ideas and feelings in an open and uninhibited manner. It is the trait of standing up for oneself and refuse to be taken advantage of by others. It is the recognition of one’s rights while still respecting other’s rights. Typically, women are seen as passive by the society and men are expected to be dominant. However, the behaviour of a person depends on his/her culture, upbringing, emotional support structure, work environment, genes and a whole lot of things. If we can ignore the stereotyping by the society, both men and women can be assertive by choice. For some, assertiveness is a second nature and comes very easily whereas for others it is like every other behaviour, schooled and practised. Given any situation, we have couple of choices on how we can react. We have a choice to be either meek or be assertive. A lot of confusion prevails as to whether a person is assertive or aggressive. Aggressiveness is the ‘fight’ response and is detrimental to relationships. Assertiveness is the logical response and is not driven by emotions. Submissiveness, on the other hand, is the ‘flight’ response where we tend to give away our rights. We are habituated to respecting authority and are told to adjust to situations right from childhood, so that we can live in harmony. But we do not shy away from using aggression over weaker sections when the situation is not conducive to us. Is there a need […]

Restarting Professional Career After A Break

Restarting Professional career after a break

Returning to the professional life after a career break seems very difficult for everyone. Companies often think that the candidate has lost the relevant skills due to career break and they start refusing such profiles. After being an efficient employee for years, an individual’s candidature is continuously refused by many companies only due to career break. Many women on career break are facing such difficulties to return back to their professional life irrespective of their passion to get back to work. Are you sailing in the same boat? Is this your story too? I must say, Women must not limit themselves due to the limited imagination of others. There are several ways to benefit from your career break. Some of them include: Bring more positive energy into yourself Your career break is the best time when you can motivate yourself more regarding your professional achievements earned so far. Try to cherish those professional achievements that you received appreciation for your efforts. It will help you to boost your confidence, and bring more positive energy. You will find more determination and focus to return back to your professional career. Improvise your skills Don’t just sit idle during this career break. Taking a course, learning new language or any other skills is of great benefit for you as you will feel more competent.  If you have interest in writing, you can start developing your writing skills like me. I have started writing after taking a professional career break. It helps me to […]

3 M’s… Mantra for Morale

Image credit: Pixabay Feeling non productive, tired, jaded, low on morale and confidence? Workplace or home, inside or outside, feeling low just creeps in at the most unwanted time. In such situations, we just wait for a magic to happen that would uplift us. A morale booster is needed. Here are 3 boosters that exist within you and you can access them anytime you want.   Motivation – Defined as a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way. What is the reason that makes you jump up and charge ahead? That reason that moves you is what motivates you. Mundane activities start to demotivate us. Its not very exciting to wake up each morning and feel like the day is running you and not the other way round. Whether it’s for a minute, an hour or a day, that one reason that helps you brighten up and lighten up is your boost. Coffee, exercise, a call, a note, a picture, a song, a bird, a dress, a scent, a move, a bend…..the list is exhaustive. These appear non existential but are the very source of sparking up your existence. Notice how these small little things contribute to the day in a big way. Motivation is no magic or a miracle, it’s an element inside you that keeps you going. Stay motivated.   Meraki – This is a word that modern Greeks often use to describe doing something with soul, creativity, or love — when you put […]

Career Break landed me on a road I never dreamt of travelling

Image Credit: Novak Yesterday I was on 365th Day of 28th year of my life. Only one year in 20’s then I would be a Trigenerian. Last night before falling asleep I sat for a while to look back into my past, First fifteen years of life is as same as any other kid, catching up on my milestones as an infant, learning fundamental education, running an academic race. During my teenage years preparing for board exam, sailing in science stream to get enrolled into a professional college. With all expectations I started pursuing my professional degree. Like every other individual I had dreamt of how my college days would be fun filled, explore a lot. But it remained same as my previous years. Model exams, practical were integral part of our routine. I reached pre final year where soft skills was introduced which would help every student to grab an opportunity in MNC. Final year sowed the seed of responsibility as a daughter and as an individual. I knew after this I could never relive the life of a student. Landed in a decent job. Initially I was overwhelmed about coding for a specific reason (It was my favorite since my college days. I felt it dealt with getting more creative). I had chosen my career. Days passed I realized somewhere deep in my heart my goals were spoon fed by my boss in addition to someone else having a hold on me as well as my time. I […]

A Little Guide to Positivity

Image credit: Pixabay None of us have a fairy godmother, who would turn the world in our favor with the wave of her wand. You need to squeeze yourself out of all the tight spots that trap you, all alone. And when things go really down, you will always get vague bits of advice like “Be positive”. Wait. But how exactly do I be positive? Should I hope for the best? Or should I squint at my miserable condition to spot the good things? Well, you need to do both. And much more. Keeping fingers crossed- Hoping for the best forms a very basic step to positive thinking. All you have to do is frequently visualize yourself living the life you want to or any other goal you want to reach, and simultaneously make continuous efforts to achieve it. Simple enough? Not really. Here is something else you will require.  Cut down on worrying- Thinking about a bright future is not as easy as it sounds. If the process of success is taking too long, the human mind is bound to have negative thoughts or go into despair. It will make you ponder over all the negative possibilities that may come into being. It will also have discouraging thoughts like “Nothing’s going to change” or “I am stuck up with this forever” or “What if it gets even worse?” Did you see how the mind is gradually pulling you in the swamp of hopelessness? To get out of this, you’ll […]

Love to write? Be a guest blogger for Her Second Innings

Her Second Innings Invites Guest Bloggers Who you are? Someone who loves writing for pleasure or as a profession Passionate about issues faced by modern day woman be it social, financial or professional Looking for a portal to voice your ideas that could impact women from all walks of life If you said yes to any of the above? We are looking for you. What’s in it for you? Be read by over 5000 subscribers Have your blog linked to our portal along with your name and picture Successful bloggers could be considered for a more permanent role as Content Creator for Her Second Innings How to submit your interest? Submit a sample blog post of about 500-800 words on any one of the topics from the given choices and send it to blogger@hersecondinnings.com Topics Motivational write up for women Issues faced by a modern woman (social, financial, home , professional etc.) Career restarting for women on a professional break Last day for submissions : OnGoing Rules All submissions must abide by the following rules All submissions must be original work of the person submitting the article/post Plagiarism or copyright infringement is not permitted. When quoting others, make sure you cite your source. (Give credit where credit is due!) Profanity or derogatory articles/posts that undermine or make fun of anyone in any manner will be automatically rejected. If your blog post is chosen for publishing on our website, you may promote the post, by sharing the link to your guest blog […]

Broaden Your Intellectual Horizon.

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Image credit: Pixabay  “Learn continually. There’s always “one more thing” to learn.” — Steve Jobs In this fast paced world, with new levels of competition sprouting each passing day, continuous learning is a necessity and not an option. In all fields, the need to be ahead of the curve dominates. Fortunately, the advancement of Information technology has bought new arenas of opportunities to learn without the traditional classroom approach and broaden one’s Intellectual Horizon at ease. With rapid innovations in various fields and the threat of automation looming, staying relevant has become indispensable. Apart from learning new skills, it’s pertinent to revisit the skills already acquired to stay significant. Organisations are set with the growing need for upskilling employees regularly to align with their business demands. In my previous organisation, most of the training’s happened through web based modules. The emergence of MOOC (Massive Open Online Course) has made it possible to attend courses at our suitability. Few advantages of learning online: It’s possible to learn at your time and convenience. Even after a hectic day, it’s stress-free to sit in the comfort of your home and learn. It’s cost effective. No need to shell out big bucks, most of the online courses are comparatively inexpensive than regular courses. It suits the speed of each person. There is always the advantage of learning at one’s pace without hindering others. Saves travel time, no hassle of going to a different location to learn. One can acquire multiple skills simultaneously. Cross skilling […]

No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

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Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Fun Alternatives For Ladies After A Career Break

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Image Credit: Pexels Did you plod your way through a hectic course, take the trouble to secure a good job and toil hard to earn a fat salary only to end up getting married, having children and staying at home totally unemployed? You now have your kids and home as your priority and perhaps you do not want to get back to your career by taking up a full fledged nine to five job like before. But the thought of doing nothing apart from your homely duties is quite discouraging. You have this urge to do something- anything that will showcase your talent, efforts and earn a good amount of money as well. Your formal education might or might not help you here, but this is the time your buried hobbies and passions should surface. Use your skills to earn money- at your own convenience. Here are some ways- If you often receive compliments for your dishes, use your cooking skills to open a blog or a YouTube channel and share your yummy recipes with the world and earn through advertisements. If you are not too tech-savvy or if you have no technical support, you can provide lunch boxes for the office going folk yearning for homemade food. To take matters further, you can even plan on opening your own little eatery if you have the resources.   Are you the kind of person who enthusiastically stays in shape? If yes, you can either be a yoga instructor, a Zumba […]

Bridging the skill gap using online resources

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Image Credit: Pixabay, Freepik Perhaps you have very little time. Or maybe you don’t want to spend too much of your money on the new skill; or on a new course; or a new book. Maybe you just need to find a quick way to get little things done. The following online resource links will doubtlessly help you save time, money and efforts to get them accomplished! Learn programming and other topics related to computer science, totally free of cost. These courses on Python, Java, Linux, C++ etc. are divided according to the difficulty level- beginner, intermediate and advanced. Identify your level, choose a course, enroll and get going: https://medium.freecodecamp.org/440-free-online-programming-computer-science-courses-you-can-start-in-february-e075f920cb5b 2. Here is a website dedicated to Java newbies where you can learn Java and JavaScript through hundreds of training videos and learning material: https://javabrains.io/ 3. If you are a web developer and wish to enhance your skills, then the courses on this website are perfect for you! Ranging from lessons from scratch to the most advanced ones, these online courses are everything you look for as a web developer: https://codeburst.io/the-2018-web-developer-roadmap-826b1b806e8d 4. Here’s where you will find a list of about 600 courses launched by 200 universities. The subjects of the courses include computer science, programming, data science, mathematics, business, medicine, humanities, social science and art: https://qz.com/1120344/200-universities-just-launched-600-free-online-courses-heres-the-full-list/ 5. A list of websites offering online education support where you will find a number of academic lessons and courses: khanacademy.org academicearths.org coursera.com edx.org open2study.com academicjournals.org codeacademy.org youtube.com/education http://www.open.edu/openlearn/ http://ocw.tufts.edu/ http://www.oeconsortium.org/ https://online.nd.edu/what-we-do/ 6. […]