No matter what the world says, it is okay to… live your life

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Image Credit: Pexels Even the busiest of the people will gladly find time out of their lives to criticize you- behind your back or right on your face. While you struggle to live up to everyone’s expectations, the murmur among the people never seems to die. Each human being possesses thoughts and perspectives of their own leading to the situation that no one will ever manage to please everyone around them. And that sort of thing isn’t even necessary. Really. So, no matter what the world says, it is quite alright to-   Be a homemaker OR a working woman: Depending on the thoughts the people around you hold, they will either encourage you to work, or nag you to leave your job; which is absolutely none of their business. You are an adult possessing complete sanity to think about what works best for you. Your choice is your own. Your child, your home, your job, your life.   Make mistakes: Unless you are literally or figuratively stabbing someone in the heart, mistakes are alright. If you have hurt someone, apologize and move on. Took a bad decision that ruined your life? Forgive yourself and be cautious next time. You are human. You are bound to make some serious errors in life, but you are intelligent enough to learn from them, right?   Be selfish: Being a good human being is like wearing beautiful but heavy earrings. People love them, but you have to bear its weight. It is a […]

Family First

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Image credit: Pixabay A very popular quote says: “what you give attention to…..grows”! How true is this? When plants are watered they grow, when happiness is shared, it spreads and grows, when a gossip is given more fuel….well it grows!!!! So essentially what we give time to…grows. Similarly, bonding in family needs time and attention. When it is given time and attention….bonding does grow. Lifestyle nowadays is hectic, full of noise, hustle, bustle and rush. In fact, what we are left with is no time with family. The interaction between members is less. In fact a down time now means for each member to spend more time on his/her own device. Here are few simple and effective tips to spend more time with family in spite of busy schedules. Family that eats together; stays together: Having at least one meal a day, every day together is a good way of spending quality time. Often its either breakfast or dinner when the family can gather and catch up with each other’s activities and plans. It’s not possible to force or make it compulsory for everyone to be at the dining table for a meal, however the intention to do so will definitely do the trick.   Interest in each other’s interests: In a family, the more number of members, more varied are the interests, hobbies and passion. Sometimes, parents encourage children to pursue a hobby or passion but do not take time to actively involve themselves in the learning. Whatever each […]

Why a homemaker should return to her career.

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Image credit: Pexels “Once a homemaker, not always a homemaker” You are blessed with the ability to bear the offspring of the human species. The teeny baby that just arrived out of you needed you the most and you went for a career break. There are some capable women who got back to their jobs right after their maternity leave was over. Then there are some lovely homely ladies who decided to stay at home just to look after their little ones. Well, kudos to both of them. Let’s talk about the homemakers. Dear homemakers, I know you might now be cozy in the comfort zone of your house, venturing out only to run some errands or meet a few friends. But I also know that you do have a secret desire in your heart to go back to the job you once had, to do something- anything to get back to the life of a proud, working, independent woman. If you don’t, here are a few reasons why you should:   Money- Although most people overtly accept the philosophical convention that money doesn’t bring happiness, the thought of having abundant money in their possession is exhilarating for many. You could earn yourself and contribute your share to the income. You can even save some of it for your child’s education, the latest car, an exclusive holiday trip or the exceedingly overpriced branded dresses you longed to have. More the money, more the exciting stuff can you buy. In case […]

Decoding Stress

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Image Credit: Pexels Stress is defined as the gap between expectation and reality. Lesser the gap. Lesser the stress. Can this gap completely disappear? Yes if we consciously want it to disappear. So, what is the root cause of stress? Psychologists say that stress is an internal alarm that goes off when a human senses pressure. Now, what is pressure? It is hyped version of a situation which is thrown at us to make us feel “stressed” So, ideally it’s not the external situation that stresses us, it’s our perception of the situation that makes us feel stressed. Our expectation versus the reality is what causes the disappointment in the first place. When we have to match both, stress occurs. Can we really be stress free? Yes we can be if we choose to be.  Some tips to have blinders or rather avoid stress than manage stress. The law of attraction states that the universe responds to whatever we think. It cannot distinguish between positive and negative. So, when we don’t want stress, one way to synchronize it with the universe is to not think of stress as a negative feeling that we have to bear the burden of, but to positively look at decoding it and simplifying it. Most mental and emotional stress manifests themselves as physical ailments. It’s totally not worth having it. Here is a minuscule attempt at decoding stress….positively. S-————-See Seeing is not just capturing what is in front of the eyes but also what doesn’t. […]

En route to Linguistic Career

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Image credit: studyfrenchspanish You may have to bear with me for a few minutes while I share a short recap. Exactly a month ago one of my bestie, Techie by profession and a doting mother, was in a deep oscillation whether to take up a offer from a Tier 2 MNC or to take a break in her career and be a SAHM for quite some time. The conversation lasted long, more than fifteen minutes. She asked me to explain about the career aspects in learning a Foreign Language. At that time I had no idea about it, but I  knew a few people who were pursuing a Linguistic Career. I concluded that I shall help her out once I ask them and let her know about it. That’s the birth story of this post. Pre-requisites: Self Motivation-Never give up attitude. Experts quote that learners feel fresh during their initial days but their zeal to learn fades when they find some hurdles during their process of learning. Redefine the course-Every learner has a unique style in accomplishing their goals. Be it an online study or direct classes make sure you redesign in such a way that it becomes user friendly. It will help you in progress. Read for Pleasure-An urge to read any kind of literature in the target language. Learn the day to day phrases/words which will lead you to break the complex grammatical structures into a simpler one. Practice makes Man Perfect: Speak to yourself in the second […]

Career Resurgence

Career Resurgence

‘Everyone falls down. Getting back up is how you learn to walk.’ – Walt Disney Few Women have the luxury of an uninterrupted career. For others, there comes an inevitable situation which necessitates a break.  Besides from break, owing to a multitude of factors, some experience a slump and struggle for a Career Resurgence. Having ruled the roost for years, it seems daunting to make a comeback. There are moments of cynicism, with so many “If’s” and “Buts”. So, is it really that difficult to revive one’s career after a break or a slump? I personally feel it’s all in the head and with the virtues of determination and hard work, it’s possible to make a stellar comeback. During my one-on-one with my team, I came across the predicament of a few who felt buried deep and strived for a revival. In my discussions, I usually recommend a couple of things to be followed vigorously to gain a strong foothold and make headway. To summarise my views in a nutshell: Start slow and work hard. Don’t expect immediate results or vast transformations. Take time to soak in the work environment. If you were on break, exploit the skills you have acquired. For e.g., if the reason for break is maternity, utilise the immense patience, hardworking qualities you have obtained in the sabbatical to your advantage. Highlight your progress to your managers, big or small. It’s not about gloating, but showcasing your potential and reinstating the faith they have in you. Seek […]

3 tips to increase your self-confidence when you are on a career break

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Image credit: Pixabay When I quit my job, a well-meaning ex-boss told me to get back to work as quickly as possible or run the risk of losing my self-confidence. My initial reaction was ‘That doesn’t apply to me. I’m never going to feel low on self-confidence’. I was so sure that she was wrong. 4 years have passed by. And, I sometimes wonder – was she right all along? I have learned the hard way now, that the answer to the above question is – Yes and No. Yes – There are times when we women are likely to lose a bit of our self-confidence. When you have to quit a hectic and demanding career and find yourself all of a sudden with nothing equally challenging (mentally) to do, you feel the vacuum. When you are used to your talent and potential being utilized and suddenly it lies dormant and unutilized, it has a certain bearing on your self-confidence, especially in the long run.   And No – One does not feel low on self-confidence all the time. There are only certain times when it strikes. For instance, you apply for a position and notice that your current skill sets are inadequate or outdated.  Or when you notice that your earlier peers have charged ahead with their careers while you are still on a break. Times like these are when you feel irrelevant and low on self-confidence. And interestingly, not everyone loses their self-confidence on a career break. Some […]

Working to Live or Living to Work? Find The Right Balance

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Image credit: Lukas From Pexels “Don’t confuse having a career with having a life”: Hillary Rodham Clinton. The quote makes us think…doesn’t it? We intertwine work with everything else and then start looking for “life” in that whirlpool. Little do we realize that work is just a part of the big picture called “life”.  Often the magnanimity of life is overshadowed by the slice of “work” that is a part of it.  Just like how family, passion, hobby are all slices too. There is no second guessing to the fact that we work an earning towards living and we work more to earn more for a better life.  However, in the midst of it all we fail to acknowledge the existence of life. The present that we are living in. We rush, run and chase but have to remind ourselves to stop, breathe and live too.  Life is the best gift that a human has ever received. But in the pursuit of living we forget the essence of life. So, a balance is sought after for a balance in work – life.  Technically, a woman who has a career and goes out of home to earn is a working woman. But what about the woman who stays at home and works for the home. Isn’t she a working woman too? Yes she is. And very rightly so. So why should “work/life” balance be applicable to a woman working outside the home and not for the one at home. Whether she […]

Bridging the skill gap using online resources

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Image Credit: Pixabay, Freepik Perhaps you have very little time. Or maybe you don’t want to spend too much of your money on the new skill; or on a new course; or a new book. Maybe you just need to find a quick way to get little things done. The following online resource links will doubtlessly help you save time, money and efforts to get them accomplished! Learn programming and other topics related to computer science, totally free of cost. These courses on Python, Java, Linux, C++ etc. are divided according to the difficulty level- beginner, intermediate and advanced. Identify your level, choose a course, enroll and get going: https://medium.freecodecamp.org/440-free-online-programming-computer-science-courses-you-can-start-in-february-e075f920cb5b 2. Here is a website dedicated to Java newbies where you can learn Java and JavaScript through hundreds of training videos and learning material: https://javabrains.io/ 3. If you are a web developer and wish to enhance your skills, then the courses on this website are perfect for you! Ranging from lessons from scratch to the most advanced ones, these online courses are everything you look for as a web developer: https://codeburst.io/the-2018-web-developer-roadmap-826b1b806e8d 4. Here’s where you will find a list of about 600 courses launched by 200 universities. The subjects of the courses include computer science, programming, data science, mathematics, business, medicine, humanities, social science and art: https://qz.com/1120344/200-universities-just-launched-600-free-online-courses-heres-the-full-list/ 5. A list of websites offering online education support where you will find a number of academic lessons and courses: khanacademy.org academicearths.org coursera.com edx.org open2study.com academicjournals.org codeacademy.org youtube.com/education http://www.open.edu/openlearn/ http://ocw.tufts.edu/ http://www.oeconsortium.org/ https://online.nd.edu/what-we-do/ 6. […]

Making Dreams Come True With ‘Wishes and Blessings’

‘Wishes and Blessings’ is a unique platform for helping the underprivileged with the aim to spread blessings and fulfil wishes by linking beneficiaries with donors. The NGO works across the spectrum of society surpassing age and gender barriers on diverse causes including education, health, skill development and relief.  Founder, Dr. Geetanjali Chopra comes with an extensive list of educational achievements and experience. She completed her schooling from the Convent of Jesus and Mary, New Delhi, college from Lady Shri Ram College for Women & completed her Masters, M.Phil., and Ph.D. from the Jawaharlal Nehru University, New Delhi. In addition, she has undertaken courses in international law from The Hague and Utretch University in Netherlands. Here are some excerpts from an interview with Dr. Geetanjali Chopra where she talks about her second innings in the social sector, When was the first time you thought of quitting a well-paying job to do something which would be meaningful to you? I started my career in the field of journalism and later moved to academics. I taught in India and abroad. I then took up a full time job in centre for policy research as a research fellow and had 5 year stint with them and in the field of academics I was active for 10 years. I was happy, had a good pay check, was travelling the world, writing books and was quite content. But somewhere the inner satisfaction was missing and I felt that I am not able to give back as […]